There is nothing more heartbreaking when you know that your Cancer man is pulling away from you. It can drive you crazy wondering what on earth you did wrong. So how to react when a Cancer man pulls away? And is there anything you can do to make him come back to you?
It’s so frustrating when you’re thinking that you’re headed somewhere special with your Cancer guy only to have him pull back. Why would he do this? You simply don’t know what to do when a Cancer man pulls away and ignores you.
Here are the possible reasons why a Cancer man ignores you and how to react when a Cancer man pulls away:
Why Does A Cancer Man Pull Away? (3 Possible Reasons)
Maybe Things Have Gone Too Far Too Fast
Cancer men know better than to move too quickly. However, sometimes he gets so excited that he cannot contain himself so he jumps right into something he should wait on.
This means he could dive right into a relationship with you and he doesn’t know enough about you to really be sure that you’re the right one. He’ll feel overwhelmed at some point and then feel the need to cool things off a bit.
This would make a Cancer man pull away a little bit but not likely for good. He could wait for you to text or call him first in order for him to respond. Also, he may wait before he replies to you.
When possible, take it nice and easy. If things went too fast, then slow, then back down just a bit and you’ll find things may run a bit smoother for the two of you.
He Wants Some Space
When a Cancer man pulls away, maybe he is trying to get some space between the two of you so that he doesn’t make any more mistakes. He wants to pump the brakes and try to get to know you over time but he knows that you’re excited and may not want to slow back down.
This would make him feel awkward and not know what the right thing to do is. Sometimes the Cancer man will back up far enough that he’ll suggest being friends first and trying to go forward from there.
Naturally, this will leave any woman confused as to why he’d be hot and start something then suddenly become distant or start to ignore you. He’s not firing on all cylinders and isn’t sure how to proceed. He’s confused.
He Might Not Know How You Feel
If a Cancer man is interested in you, but for whatever reason he thinks you aren’t interested in him, he may pull back. This is why it’s important to always let a Cancer man know you have feelings for him.
He isn’t going to waste too much time trying to cultivate a romance with someone who isn’t as into it as he is, thus, he will start to become icy or back out completely.
If you haven’t yet told your Cancer guy what you feel, you may want to consider doing so. That will prevent him from backing away due to not being sure whether or not you’re into him.
Don’t give your Cancer man a reason to become cold or reserved. He’s a very warm man and will remain so when he knows that the woman who he’s into is for him and him only.
Be brave and let him know what is important to you so that you don’t lose him. He has to know where you’re coming from, what your needs are, and what will be best to work through your bumpy patch.
What To Do When A Cancer Man Ignores You
Give Him Space To Breathe
If your Cancer man is either very angry with you or hurt, it’s going to require a bit of work. Especially if this is the reason why he is ignoring you in the first place. First, he’s going to want some time and space to sort his heart out. He may want to think about why he’s with you.
Giving your Cancer man space gives him a chance to cool down and think about the situation with clarity. If you keep reminding him that he is upset with you then you are not giving him a moment to sit with his feelings.
Remember, a Cancer man is very sensitive and he is like an antenna to other people’s feelings which can be incredibly overwhelming to him. He needs to be on his own for a while so that he can disconnect from the world. No wonder the Cancer man does this disappearing act!
2. Apologize To Him
When a Cancer man ignores your text, what you’ll need to do is let him know that you are sorry if you hurt him without thinking or made him angry when it wasn’t right. You should apologize and tell him you won’t do it again.
Then you should tell him that when he’s ready to talk to you that you’re here for him. Give him some time. I’d say that the time frame you have to wait will rely on how bad it really was.
It may be days, but then again, it may be weeks. Sometimes Cancer men break up with women due to being so overwhelmed but then a year or two later, he’s ready to give it another shot.
You never can tell which direction he’s going to swing because it’s all based on what he feels. However, if you apologize for what happened and tell him you’re working on it and won’t do it again, then he may come around sooner.
If you do not apologize, he will hold it against you and it may be a good long while before he talks to you again. Then when you do reach out to him, he may tell you off or just not ever reply again.
It all depends on how bad it was and how much time he feels he needs. Just be sure to admit your fault (if it was your fault) and let him know that you’re there for him.
Cancer Man Not Responding To Texts? Here’s What To Do
This is where things take a turn that you probably will not appreciate. Cancer men do tend to ghost people if they decide that their partner isn’t the right one. This would mean a Cancer man ignores your texts or doesn’t call you back.
I wouldn’t wait for too long while this is going on. If you have gone a week or two without him responding to you, he may not be into you anymore or thinks that he’s done.
What you’ll do is test him to see what the deal is. Text him and tell him: “I really deserve to know what is going on between us, can you please give me clarity?” and see if he responds.
If he doesn’t respond then you’re going to have to consider that he may not be into the relationship anymore. If he does reply, you’ll quickly see which way he is swinging.
A Cancer man not texting back may tell you he’s been busy, been thinking about things, or that he thinks that it’s just not what he wants at the time. Either way, you’re going to get some sort of answer whether he texts back or ignores it.
I hate to say it, but once a Cancer man decides to move on, he does so. He may move on with someone else or he may just move on from the woman he feels it’s not working with.
There isn’t much you can do when he acts this way other than asking him why he isn’t speaking with you. Be forward with it and see if he answers or if he continues to be quiet.
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Is Your Cancer Man Distant After Intimacy? Here’s What To Do
There is that dreaded thing men do when they’ve become intimate with a woman. They will pull away and make her question all her choices. Even sensitive men like Cancers do this and it is extremely frustrating.
However, the thing with a Cancer man is that they aren’t going distant because he doesn’t like you. Usually, the contrary is true, that he likes you so much he feels like he is going to lose himself if doesn’t play it cool.
When a Cancer man withdrawal after being intimate with you, you must give him enough space to breathe to figure out his feelings. The last thing you want to do is overwhelm him and make him feel like he has made the wrong decision by being intimate with you.
He’s Perhaps Upset With You
Naturally, there is always a chance he may be upset with you for some reason and so he gives you the silent treatment. With a Cancer man gone quiet; this can show you he’s upset and clearly, you need to do some groveling.
He’s the one that wants to tell you what you did wrong so that you don’t repeat the process and also so you can apologize to him. He gets hurt very easily, as he is sensitive.
If he pulls back out of nowhere then it’s probably something that you did that maybe you’re not aware of. It may be best to give him time to cool off and then ask him what happened. Tell him you can’t fix it if he doesn’t tell you.
That should rattle him enough to speak up. It’s not good for either of you to hold feelings in. Communication should always be worked on between you two if you want it to last. This is what to do when a Cancer man pulls away.
When Cancer man pulls away, you’ve got to rattle him a bit. If you ignore a Cancer man or try the “tit for tat” method, you will fail. He won’t like it and he will just go ahead and let you go.
While you want to give him some space, you also want to ask him what went wrong and what you can do to make it up to him if it was in fact your fault. He can’t expect you to fix what you don’t know is wrong.
Remind him of that and you’ll have a better chance of making it work and getting him to come out of his comfort zone at the same time. He needs to be able to totally open up and trust you.
Maybe He’s Lost Interest In You
One of the other reasons a Cancer man is acting distant or icing you out is that he’s decided there is something about you that doesn’t sit well with him. It doesn’t mean you’re flawed or a bad person.
It just means he’s looking for something specific and if you haven’t got it, he’d let go and move on. Sometimes he may do this without saying much in hopes it will just fizzle out without having to officially break it off.
He doesn’t like confrontation at all so he generally isn’t good with breakups. He’d rather ignore a woman and let it work itself out over time. It takes the pressure off him even if it is a coward’s way out.
If a Cancer man loses interest in you or doesn’t see a future with you, he’ll for sure back off and you’ll hear very little, if anything, from him. It really sucks and it isn’t fair but he’d rather it die out in its own natural way than, to be honest, and tell you face to face.
Give it a few weeks and you should be able to tell which of these options may hold true. He’ll either periodically contact you, he’ll come back fully, or he’ll never be heard from again.
Either of these will give you an idea of where his head is at. Of course, you may try just flat out asking him what is going on and if things are still good between you. Give him a little space but don’t let go.
So, When A Cancer Man Is Pushing You Away, Should You Let Him Go?
You may be asking yourself “When a Cancer man is ignoring me, what are my options?” Leave or try your best to get through to him? What will I do with our relationship?
After a few weeks, if he still hasn’t straightened up, you may have to work at letting go of him. Cancer knows fairly quickly whether or not someone is going to be the one to last through time.
As such, he’ll back up when he feels he’s jumped too quickly but he’ll also back up if he thinks that maybe the woman he likes isn’t entirely what he’s looking for. His moods can play a role in any of this as well so be aware.
With a Cancer man gone quiet, there is most definitely a reason. You will have to decide what you feel intuitively. What does your gut tell you when you think of your love for him? That’s what you have to trust ultimately.
When Your Cancer Man Disappears After Intimacy…
Does your Cancer man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Or does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?
Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style. He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s Dismissive Avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s Fearful Avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.
But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
It will stop your Cancer man from pulling away when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish in only 30 days.
So no more crying yourself to sleep when your Cancer pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.