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What To Do When A Cancer Man Ignores You – Why Is He Distant?

It’s so frustrating when you’re thinking that you’re headed somewhere special with your Cancer guy only to have him pull back. Why would he do this? What to do when a Cancer man ignores you? Here are top reasons why he is doing that.

Maybe things have gone too far too fast

Cancer men know better than to move too quickly. However, sometimes he gets so excited that he cannot contain himself so he jumps right into something he should wait on.

This means he could dive right into a relationship with you and he doesn’t know enough about you to really be sure that you’re the right one. He’ll feel overwhelmed at some point then feel the need to cool things off a bit.

This would make him pull back a little bit but not likely for good. He could wait for you to text or call him first in order for him to respond. Also, he may wait before he replies to you.

When possible, take it nice and easy. If things went to fast then slow them back down just a tad bit and you’ll find things may run a bit smoother for the two of you.

He Wants Some Space

Maybe your Cancer man is trying to get some space between the two of you so that he doesn’t make any more mistakes. He wants to put the brakes on and try to get to know you over time but he knows that you’re excited and may not want to slow back down.

This would make him feel awkward and not know what the right thing to do is. Sometimes the Cancer man will back up far enough that he’ll suggest being friends first and trying to go forward from there.

Naturally, this will leave any woman confused as heck as to why he’d be hot and start something then suddenly becomes distant or starts to ignore you. He’s not firing on all cylinders and isn’t sure how to proceed. He’s confused.

He Might Not Know How You Feel

If the Cancer man is interested in you, but for whatever reason he thinks you aren’t as into him, he may pull back. This is why it’s important to always let Cancer man know you have feelings for him.

He isn’t going to waste too much time on trying to cultivate a romance with someone who isn’t as into it as he is thus he starts to become icy or backs out completely.

If you haven’t yet told your Cancer guy what you feel, you may want to consider doing so. That will prevent him from backing away due to not being sure whether or not you’re into him.

Don’t give him a reason to become cold or reserved. He’s a very warm man and will remain so when he knows that the woman he’s into is for him and him only.

Be brave and let him know what is important to you so that you don’t lose him. He has to know where you’re coming from, what your needs are, and what will be best to work through your bumpy patch.

He’s Perhaps Upset With You

Naturally, there is always a chance he may be upset with you for some reason and so he gives you the silent treatment. With Cancer man gone quiet; can show you he’s upset and that clearly you need to do some groveling.

He’s one that wants to tell you what you did wrong so that you don’t repeat the process and also so you can apologize to him. He gets hurt feelings very easily as he is sensitive.

If he pulls back out of nowhere then it’s probably something that you did that maybe you’re not aware of. It may be best to give him time to cool off then ask him what happened. Tell him you can’t fix it if he doesn’t tell you.

That should rattle him enough to speak up. It’s not good for either of you to hold feelings in. Communication should always be worked on between you two if you want it to last. This is what to do when Cancer man ignores you.

When Cancer man acts distant, you’ve got to rattle him a bit. If you ignore him or try the “tit for tat” method, you will fail. He won’t like it and he will just go ahead and let you go.

While you want to give him some space, you also want to ask him what went wrong and what you can do to make it up to him if it was in fact your fault. He can’t expect you to fix what you don’t know is wrong.

Remind him of that and you’ll have a better chance at making it work and getting him to come out of his comfort zone at the same time. He needs to be able to totally open up and trust you.

Maybe He’s Lost Interest In You

One of the other reasons Cancer man is acting distant or icing you out is that he’s decided there is something about you that doesn’t sit well with him. It doesn’t mean you’re flawed or a bad person.

It just means he’s looking for something specific and if you haven’t got it, he’d let go and move on. Sometimes he may do this without saying much in hopes it will just fizzle out without having to officially break it off.

He doesn’t like confrontation at all so he generally isn’t good with breakups. He’d rather ignore a woman and let it work itself out over time. It takes the pressure off him even if it is a coward’s way out.

If he lost interest in you or doesn’t see a future with you, he’ll for sure back off and you’ll hear very little, if anything, from him. It really sucks and it isn’t fair but he’d rather it die out on its own natural way than to be honest and tell you face to face.

Giving it a few weeks and you should be able to tell which of these options may hold true. He’ll either periodically contact you, he’ll come back fully, or he’ll never be heard from again.

Either of these will give you an idea of where his head is at. Of course, you may try just flat out asking him what is going on and if things are still good between you. Give him a little space but don’t let go.

Should You Let Him Go?

You may be asking yourself “with Cancer man ignoring me, what are you my options?”  Leave or try your best to get through to him? What will I do with our relationship?

After a few weeks, if he still hasn’t straightened up, you may have to work at letting go of him. Cancer knows fairly quickly whether or not someone is going to be the one to last through time.

As such, he’ll back up when he feels he’s jumped too quickly but he’ll also back up if he thinks that maybe the woman he likes isn’t entirely what he’s looking for. His moods can play a role in any of this as well so be aware.

With a Cancer man gone quiet, there is most definitely a reason. You will have to decide what you feel intuitively. What does your gut tell you when you think of your love for him? That’s what you have to trust ultimately. 


The Cancer man acting distant means that he’s not right with his emotions whether that has anything to do with you or if it’s just his own insecurities; he’s just doing what comes natural to him. He withdraws into his crabby shell.

It’s a protective maneuver. Eventually he has to face his feelings though and find a way to make his life work. Luckily with Cancer man, going quiet for him doesn’t last long. He’s too outgoing to shut himself off for any length of time.

Naturally, it may help you to know more about the Cancer man so that you’re able to read him easier going forward. Click here if you would like to learn all that you can about this complicated Cancer guy.

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

13 thoughts on “What To Do When A Cancer Man Ignores You – Why Is He Distant?

  1. The cancer I was seeing kept telling me he was in love with me and loves me now he’s not talking, keeps cutting me dead blocking unblocking he’s messed my head up big time.

    1. Hi Fiona!

      It sounds like your Cancer guy is very confused with what he wants. He gets close to you and while he enjoys it, he also gets scared then freaks out. This makes him a bit dramatic. It probably has to do with his past. If you’re confused by him, ask him what he wants and make sure that he tells you. Once you figure that out, if it’s not what you want, you can break it off and be done with the roller coaster relationship. Communication is huge!

  2. Hi I’m in a situation, my partner is a cancer/Leo cups.
    Things have been going great until he’s become a little withdrawn. I picked up on this fairly quick and asked him if he was ok. After a week of treading on eggshells we had a chat, something I was not expecting was the raw emotions from him. It upset me to hear him crying.
    He told he every thing was getting on top of him, work, lack of sleep, pain from an operation and the worry of us. Couple of things that did not sit well with were brought up.
    It came out that things had moved quicker than we expected. I have previously said we should take things a little slow.
    He admitted he had encouraged things.
    Now I’m at place following that heartfelt conversation, with not knowing what to do? Other than give him his space. But then the feat of not hearing from him again haunts me. I love this guy and admire his openness about how he is feeling. His past is impacting on us. I’ve tried to be as understanding as much as I can and this is not a complaint or the issue for me.
    He’s asked for time to think. I asked him if he did not want any contact from me, his response was its harsh to suggest it. Still wants to keep in touch and it may work out between us, it may not.
    I Want to contact him but cant bring myself to doing so. I’m hurting too and he does not know this nor do I plan on telling him.
    I’m writing this comment on here 24 hours after our conversation.

    1. Hi Sinita!

      Alright, if you do not reach out to him he’s going to think you’ve lost interest or given up on him. There is nothing wrong with checking with him to see how he’s doing. In fact it shows the fact that you still care for him and he’ll appreciate it. You can say “Hi there, I hope you’re doing alright”. Keep it simple yet expressing your care for him so that he understands you haven’t given up. It’s important! Hang in there.

  3. I fell for a cancer man not expecting this, it was suppose to be a one night stand but since day one we felt as we knew each other from past lifes. I met him on 2016 now it 2020. I asked for that talk and he said his emotionally not available both of our worlds cant be mixed, and I told him I wont settle for someone half time, our physical attraction is intense we fell like were in extasy but naturally high for each other. He opened up then close up, his scared to have feeling for me. I love myself and I want to stop feeling this craving I have for him and I want him to look for me and ask me to be serious with him if not I will love him by distance and wish him the best. He learn to be alone after his 4 year relation that went really bad and I think he doesnt want to change and loves being alone and if he dances to his own beat of the drum and their is no way on changing him. We dont have to talk to feel each other, is like were connected I text him and he just sees it and then in days I hear from him like who is more crazy here? Do I feel Ignore definetely. Cancer man are amazing partners but their mood swings and the way they think and act that just mind blows me and I am a scorpio. We have feeling and we love and want to feel love we are not those dark creatures that they make us seem to be.

    1. Hi ScorpioWoman,

      You two definitely get each other since you’re both water signs. That’s a very normal thing. Yes Cancer man does have some huge mood swings but as long as you know this and are able to get through it without causing disruption to the relationship then you’ll be just fine. Find a formula for success for you two and stick with it. It takes trial and error to get there sometimes but you’ll be alright.

  4. Hi I started seeing a cancer man recently everything went well until he gets moody, and I’m tired of the moodiness.

    1. Hi SagittariusGal36!

      Yes, they are very moody for sure. Sagittarius has a hard time coping with this as it’s not something they’re accustomed to. If you learn his moods, you can learn how to avoid certain circumstances as well. It takes time and it takes work but if you feel he’s not worth it then you may want to keep moving forward on your own. You have to decide what you can and cannot handle. No one else can tell you otherwise.

  5. I was dating a Cancer man since October 2019 and everything went so fast. We clicked immediately he told me he had a strong connection. Sexually it’s been the best we have both ever experienced. There is definetly a huge attraction there. Then I accidently did something where he felt I was trying to be possessive, that was not the case. Eventually it kept dying out and he broke it off in December telling me he was going to try with his ex because she had apologized and wanted to try again. I believed him then, so we remained acquaintances in social media. He would like much of my posts. A month and a half after he broke it off he claims he made a mistake and wanted me to forgive him. He declared his love for me and so on. Valentines day we saw each other after two months and it was great. The following week it began to die down again. I think he has been speaking to someone else, it’s my sixth sense and it never fails me. It’s been 3 days neither of us have reached out. I think it’s over but not sure if he will call again. I certainly won’t. Not sure what happened. Any thoughts?

    1. Hi SaggyLady7412,

      Yikes, I’m sorry he slipped up and went with the ex. His feelings are intense and sometimes he make choices on the fly due to how he feels at the moment which isn’t always the right thing to do. If your intuition is telling you that he’s speaking to another female then you had better trust it. He sounds like a cheat and best to avoid. Don’t reach out. If he loves you he will find a way to connect. If not and he’s just after the chase then he won’t. You deserve better honey!

  6. So I’ve been talking to this cancer for a couple months now and its LDR. the last visit we had huge heart to heart and we made it official then something happened and he expressed his disappoint in me and I was upset about him listening to others versus me, so I kind of put him in his place and he felt I wasn’t being remorseful. He mentioned that he feels I’m not ready for a LTR and we can just have fun together. Now he’s not answering my calls. I decided I’ll give him his space but idk for how long, idk what to do.

  7. I need to know how to be able to get the Cancer man Secrets thru another way rather than Clickbank, trying to pay with my paypal account and it does not go thru, this is not the first time this happens. Tk u

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