Is Your Cancer Man Being Distant All Of A Sudden? Here’s What To DO

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Why is he so closed off and unable to talk to you? Learn here the main reasons why your Cancer man is being distant, and what to do about it.

A Cancer man being distant isn’t something totally unusual. These guys often turn cold when things get hot in a relationship. Is your Cancer man suddenly distant? Well, it might not be as bad as you think, here is why…

Cancer men are actually rather reserved and secretive about their feelings, and they don’t easily open up… This is why a  Cancer man is so distant, he is struggling to come to terms with the way he is feeling and will instead try to go silent. 

I just want you to know that there this behaviour is no reflection on you, by the way, and this is all his issue. Cancer is ruled by the Moon so these men feel their emotions intensely. He’s afraid of getting hurt. He knows he can’t handle the desperate lows.

Are you struggling with your Cancer man suddenly acting distant? Then you have definitely come to the right place. This article should give you an understanding of why this happens and what you can do about it.

Why Is My Cancer Man Being So Distant? 4 Possible Reasons

He Isn’t Sure How You Feel

Cancer men are sensitive and sometimes pick up on things that others do not. They also look for signs of love and if they aren’t feeling as though their partner loves them anymore, they’ll start to pull themselves back into their shell.

This would particularly be from a partner who has become comfortable and doesn’t work as hard to win his heart anymore. It makes him feel as though his partner has lost their desire for him.

Feeling low, the Cancer man decides that his partner just doesn’t care anymore or is actually unclear about how his partner feels. If you have a Cancer man who has seemingly started to distance himself, you may want to talk to him about it.

If he expresses that he doesn’t know how you feel or that he feels you don’t care for him like you once did, you had better find a way to let him know where you are in his heart so he doesn’t pull further away.

Here’s more on how to show your love and affection to a Cancer man.

He Is Not Happy Anymore

Naturally, if a Cancer man for some reason feels that things are not working out the way he had hoped, he will back up or back out. This causes him to stop talking and communicating.

When you notice a Cancer man pulling away even just a little bit, you had better talk to him to find out why he’s doing this. You might be able to salvage it if it’s a problem that just needs a solution.

Be very careful with your Cancer man’s heart. He needs to always feel the light of your love because the second he starts to question it or feel maybe he’s not in love anymore, he’s going to fade out until he’s gone.

Naturally, when a Cancer man is acting distant and wants out of a relationship, he will absolutely start to slowly withdraw. He’s not forthcoming in telling a woman he doesn’t want to be with her anymore.

He Is Scared To Commit

The Cancer man would actually benefit greatly from taking his time to decide if someone is right for him. He doesn’t always have the patience and thus rushes, then becomes paralyzed with fear.

When he gets really close to someone really quickly, he becomes terrified that things may not work; she could be the wrong one, she could be the right one, she may hurt him, or she may abandon him.

Cancer men do tend to have abandonment issues, and due to this, their fears are massive when it comes to committing to a woman if they’ve been hurt before. This is why they’re hot and heavy in the beginning and then fizzle out.

He’s only scared of commitment when he’s been really badly burned before. He has to learn the hard way, though; otherwise, he’ll keep rushing in and finding failure over and over.

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He Needs Lots of Tender Loving

In the event that you aren’t giving him all the attention he really craves, he’s going to lose interest in you. He wants to be in love and feel all the things that come along with that.

Be playful, be attentive, be sexy, and let him know how much you care. If you don’t, you will lose him. He’s not really one to wait on someone who is unsure. He wants someone who knows fairly quickly if they want a future with him or not.

While you can suggest taking it easy in the beginning, he won’t have the patience to wait too long for you to come around. Either you’re in or you’re out. That’s the way he sees it.

Give him attention and appreciation or find someone else. He certainly has no trouble moving on and finding someone else who will give him all that he could ever desire. Don’t be replaceable!

Warning Signs Your Cancer Man Is Growing Emotionally Distant

He Goes Back To His Crab-Shell

A Cancer man who grows emotionally distant will start to close down to that person. So if a Cancer man is not around you and is not eager to share his problems or seek your advice, he may have grown cold toward you and wants to be left alone.

He will not look to spend time with you or be near you, so don’t be surprised when he disappears from your sight. It is a clear sign to move forward with your life.

If you like him, you may want to actually ask him how he sees this relationship going. If he feels like not sharing his hopes and dreams with you, you will realize he’ll start focusing on himself and not include you in his future plans.

This is his way of showing you that he is not open to being vulnerable with you and that he is considering moving on.

When A Cancer Man Cancels His Plans

If you are dating a Cancer man, please note that he won’t tell you when something is off because he wants to avoid conflict and confrontation with you.

The worst thing would be for you to realize too late that things are not working. This is why you always need to be on the lookout for signs that he is not happy in the relationship.

If he is constantly making excuses not to be with you, if he is not including you in his social activities and cancels your plans, and if he doesn’t compromise with you, those are clear signs your Cancer man is growing emotionally distant.

Paying more attention to other people and spending less time with you means that your Cancer man is not interested in you. If you want to make things work with him, you need to remind him how good you are and how much respect you have for him.

Lack Of Communication

A Cancer man who blows cold will stop communicating with you. He will pretend that everything is OK, and will not tell you what bothers him. Instead, he will be reserved.

Most likely, he will retreat to process his emotions; so he may become unusually quiet and distant. Furthermore, if your Cancer man is acting distant and doesn’t share his feelings, it is a definite sign he is not interested in you anymore.

What To Do When A Cancer Man Is Acting Weird

First, you should do some investigation. If he’s just fluffing around, let him know you have options, too. That should do the trick! You can simply ask him to tell you in a non-confrontational way why he is acting distant. There should be a reason behind it.

Encourage him to tell you about his feelings for you. Have you unintentionally hurt him? You could also engage him by doing activities together, which he usually loves and enjoys. It will also bring him closer to you.

Most of the time, it’s probably not as personal as it feels. Give things some time to develop, and as he begins to spend more time with you, they could draw closer and closer. Lean back, focus on your own life, and do the things you love instead of waiting around for him.

Check this video if you want to learn the signs that a Cancer man is done with you and wants to end it:

How To Close Emotional Distance With A Cancer Man (How To Get Him To Open Up)

The number one thing you have to do to get your Cancer man to open up to you emotionally is to make him feel safe enough to do so. 

This may sound a little abstract, so an example gathered from my years of experience as a Relationship Astrologer, would be to not overreact when he shares his feelings with you. In other words, don’t take it personally. 

If you can remain objective, in a supportive role rather than shouting at him, crying, becoming cold, or any other major reaction, then he will feel like it’s safe to open up to you more and more. That you are an anchor in the storm, rather than someone he has to tiptoe around. 

This also includes, of course, never making fun of him, or making him feel small or silly for feeling what he feels. Never sharing his secrets with anyone else, or brushing his emotions off as inconsequential. 

Once he feels safe with you, it becomes effortless to show you his soft underbelly! 

A Cancer Man Suddenly Distant Doesn’t Necessarily Mean The End…

If your Cancer man suddenly pulls away and it’s really bothering you, you really need to sit down and do some careful thinking. Do you want to carry on feeling like this? 

You can talk about how it affects you and ask your Cancer if he is willing to open up and share his true feelings with you, but you can’t expect him to change for you completely either. 

In that case, perhaps your perfect match lies somewhere else… 

However, for the most part, an emotionally distant Cancer man is just down to a period of stress or worry that will pass in time. Don’t panic and think that everything is doomed—it’s probably just a phase that needs to be worked through before you can make it to the other side.

Does your Cancer man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Or does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?

Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

Stop Worrying About Your Cancer Man…

It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Cancer man who won’t commit.

I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Cancer guys. I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her.

She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.

As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.

Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.

How could she just give up on that?

But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work…

She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language <<

And it worked!! So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Cancer man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…

Click here and learn how to speak Cancer man’s love language <<

xoxo, Anna

About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

3 thoughts on “Is Your Cancer Man Being Distant All Of A Sudden? Here’s What To DO

  1. I think most of that is true, but from what I’ve seen Cancers tend to not be quick to want to move on. They will even sometimes hold onto a bad relationship for too long because they don’t want to let go.

    1. Hi Taylor!

      Thank you for writing in. They can hold onto bad relationships yes but often times they will also explore other options to see if someone else may be better for them out there. They are also sometimes guilty of cheating due to being in a relationship they refuse to end. Cancer men can be rather complicated when it comes to love and whether or not they should stay or move on.

  2. What if they tatooed your name on them bUt your long distance 😳 is it all the retrograded making him so depressed and distant 😞

    if were close to there mother, they want to marry, they tatoo our name is this commitment from them? But since the beginning hes said when we meet i will be unattracted and abandon him so i dont know how to save my relationship before he just gives up

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