How To Get A Cancer Man To Forgive You When Hurt

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Have you done something that hurt a Cancer man but you’re not sure how to make him feel better or cheer him up? Here's how to get a Cancer man to forgive you.

Did you have a falling out with your Cancer guy, and now you’re not sure if he will ever forgive you? Perhaps you two broke it off, but you want to get back together with him. So, how do you get a Cancer man to forgive you? What must you do to win his forgiveness? Is he capable of giving it a second chance?

There are some things you need to know when a Cancer man is hurt. It all comes down to what he cherishes and what he despises. The Cancer man can be rather particular when it comes to love and certainly who he will choose to be his lifetime partner. His needs are specific, as are his desires in life.

Are you the woman who can start the Cancer man’s fire and keep it going? To win the heart of a Cancer man, it takes a special kind of lady. It’s a difficult task to figure out what makes him run to you like a knight in shining armor, but it’s worthwhile.

Here are some helpful tips for you to consider.

What Happens When You Hurt A Cancer Man

A Cancer man is greatly influenced by his emotions. He is a dreamer out of touch with reality who senses things on a deep emotional level. He is very intuitive and empathic.

If you hurt a Cancer man, he will take a nosedive. Until he recovers, he will not face you. When hurt, a Cancer man will simply crawl back to his crab shell.

Whether or not you’re involved in his feeling hurt, he’s going to need some solitude in order to work things through in his mind. While he may be willing to talk to you about it, let him do it in his own time. You cannot force him.

He wants to feel trust and security with the person he decides to divulge his misery to. If you’re his partner, then this would be you.

How To Get A Cancer Man To Forgive You

When your Cancer man is upset with you and it’s something you know you did wrong, you can try to make amends. Here are a few tips on how to get a Cancer man to forgive you and hopefully help you out:

Give Him The Time And Space He Needs

The first thing you might want to do is to give your Cancer man all the space and time he will need to come to terms with what you have done.

Try allowing him a little time to himself to process everything that happened. You’re not letting him go and you’re not enabling him to break it off. He just needs quiet time to figure out what his feelings are and what he wants.

Sincere Apology

Naturally, when you are in the wrong, you need to fess up, apologize, and promise to never do it again. Don’t make a promise you cannot keep though. Think it over and make sure that you can stand by what you say.

 If you’ve done something that has hurt your Cancer man, you’ll really need to apologize to him and explain why you did what you did. Be heartfelt and sincere about what you’re saying because he’ll be able to tell if you’re not being honest. 

Walk The Walk

An apology isn’t going to be enough. Your Cancer man will expect you to walk what you promised him you’d do. It will take time but trust can be built back up if he wasn’t too wounded by what happened.

Showing him what you promised will show that you really mean it and he can trust you again.

Get Him To Open Up About His Pain And Listen Attentively

Because they are introverted, Cancer men are more likely to retreat into their shells and nurse their pain quietly.

However, if you can get a Cancer man to open up, you become a positive presence in his life, even if you are the object of his anguish. If you manage to do this, allow him to express himself without interruption, only offering your devoted attention.

You need to let him talk about his feelings about all of it or ask him what he’s feeling in light of what happened, as well as your apology. It’s important that you both know what each is feeling so that you can properly heal.

Few More Ways To Apologize To A Cancer Man

Express Regret

While he’s trying to figure things out, you can express your regret. This helps open the doorway so that you can find a healthy way back to each other. There is no guarantee that it will turn back to romance, but it may help.

If you want him in your life, you may have to let him be and let him work on his insecurities and whatever is holding him down emotionally. Then whatever is going to happen will happen from there.

Show Understanding

Keep in mind that Cancer men are often moody.

This will determine his level of hurt, anger, or offended feelings. If he’s in a bad mood and you do something that ticks him off, he may feel it magnified more than he should.

If this is the case, after he’s had time to cool down, he may be able to look at it in a less intense light. However, he may carry it over and think it was too much of an offense for him to forgive.

What matters is that you show understanding for his level of hurt and give him time to heal.

Be Honest With Him

If you did something to hurt him, even if you didn’t mean it, he will hold it against you and always wonder if you’re going to do it again. It doesn’t mean that he cannot or will not forgive you, but the chances may be slim depending on how hurt he actually was in the process.

Talking to him and asking him how he feels may help determine how deep the cut was for him and give you a good idea of whether he’ll give you another chance or not.

He needs to see that you mean it and that you are not pretending to care, so honesty is the best policy.

Will A Cancer Man Forgive You Easily?

Cancer men do not forgive easily, and even if they do, they will not trust easily again. If this is the case, it’s going to take time for him to wrap his head around what happened and figure out how he can get past it.

He’s a sensitive soul, and when he gets hurt, a Cancer man takes it extremely personally. Even if he messed up and you broke it off, he’ll be hurt by the breakup. Either way, you’re going to need to give him enough time.

How much? No one knows because each Cancer man, when hurt, reacts differently. There is no way to know for sure how much time he needs. He will let you know how he feels and when he feels it. If not, ask him.

Most people require a bit of space to figure out what happened, what they want, and where they are going. Until they do, they’ll feel the need to push you away or back.

FAQ On Cancer Man’s Forgiveness

Are you struggling to figure out what to do about your Cancer man and how to get him to forgive you when hurt? Do Cancer men forgive easily?

Well, luckily for you I have compiled a list of questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate the difficult times you might experience with your Cancer man.

How Long Does It Take A Cancer Man To Forgive You?

You should never demand his forgiveness, and you must always give him time to reflect on his emotions and on this situation that happened between you two.

It takes a lot of time for him to forgive you, so arm yourself with patience. When he gives you time to prove yourself, you’ll have to play by his rules and by his timing. You cannot rush the process.

How To Make A Cancer Man Miss You After A Fight?

Be open-minded. Try to find the middle ground. Keep the conversation alive; don’t sound needy or clingy. He wants lightheartedness in love—no hard talk, no judging, and no accusations. Communicate openly. 

Express your feelings honestly and work together to find a solution that will be mutually beneficial. Talk to each other about important things. Make him feel like he’s in control because if there’s chaos in a situation, Cancer will stay away from it at all costs. Once you have his mind, you will also gain his heart.

What To Do When Cancer Man Is Mad At You?

There’s only so much arguing you can do before you’re both talking in circles, and that’s when the big guns come out and things can get really hurtful.

If you feel your argument is veering into the danger zone, call a time-out. Once the fire has cooled, he will be much more likely to try to work things out in a peaceful, constructive way.

Stop Worrying About Your Cancer Man…

It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Cancer man who won’t commit, especially when a Cancer man hurts your feelings.

I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Cancer guys. I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her.

She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.

As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.

Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.

How could she just give up on that?

But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work…

She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language <<

And it worked!! So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Cancer man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…

>> Go here now and learn how to speak Cancer man’s love language.

xoxo, Anna

About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

2 thoughts on “How To Get A Cancer Man To Forgive You When Hurt

  1. How many times must a woman forgive a Cancer Man from bullying her and being sarcatic even in fun. It hurts to be talked to or not talked to by this man, He then turns around and smiles and throws kisses like nothing even happened. Yes in big issues he is a great man but when we are alone he switches and argues and badgers me and talks over top of me. In front of others he is so meek and fun. Any suggestions an how many times he should be forgiven and how many time does he have to be reminded to stop bullying me. He thinks it’s a big joke.

    1. Dear Arlene,

      If you see him escalating, perhaps it is a good time to suggest that he take some time to vent, and that you’ll talk to him about it when he’s taken the edge off and released his anger in some other way.
      If he’s venting to you about a situation in general or about someone else, don’t take his tone of voice or words personally. No woman deserves to be bullied, especially by her man. The only way to really get back at him is by walking away and focusing on your own growth and happiness. Focusing on yourself may lead you to understand why you have allowed yourself to be used and develop a stronger sense of self-worth.

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