How To Keep A Cancer Man Interested — 3 Must Follow Rules

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
These tips on how to keep a Cancer man interested in you will work perfectly, just as long as you remember that everything in love has to be mutual.

The Cancer man is a super nice guy typically. But sometimes, it can be hard to determine whether he genuinely likes you or if he’s just flirting. This is probably the reason why you’re interested in knowing how to keep a Cancer man interested…

When a Cancer man gets involved with a woman, he’s sensitive to her needs and desires. He will seemingly know what she requires without her having to say very much at all. The only problem is that she will have a hard time reading between the lines.

The Cancer man is an incredibly loyal man, always in touch with his emotions. He is not really verbally expressive, so you never know where you stand with him.

They have one of the most specific love languages of all Zodiac signs. I covered his entire Astrology love profile in my Cancer Love Language guide. I suggest you get your copy if you really want to master his love language and finally connect with him in the right way.

If a Cancer man is truly in love with someone, he will want to be around them at all times. Are you wondering if you should try to pursue him or leave him alone? Maybe you’ve started getting to know a Cancer man but want a bit more insight on how to recognize his interest in you.

Keep reading to learn more about the signs a Cancer man is interested in you. And then, when you know the signs, learn how to keep a Cancer man interested in you long run.

What A Cancer Man Finds Attractive?

The Cancer man can be quite psychic or empathic at times. He’s certainly in tune with his own intuition, and he uses it to help him discern other people’s intentions.

Cancer men love caring, sensible, and family-oriented women. They like women who work hard and earn what they need to survive instead of looking for a man to provide for them.

A Cancer man needs to feel nurtured, so a feminine, nurturing woman will be in his focus.

If a Cancer man is into you, he will be all touchy-feely. He likes kisses and cuddles. In relationships, he thrives on stability and comfort. He likes emotional security. If his emotions are not in check and he is unable to control them, he will end up being controlling in the relationship.

A Cancer man is loyal, and he certainly cares for his loved one, but she needs to respect him and be there for him no matter what. This is an important key to having a happy relationship with a Cancer man. Talking about important issues and making him feel in control are critical because Cancer will avoid chaotic situations at all costs.

Once a woman has his mind, she will also gain his heart. She needs to keep the conversation alive, and needs not to sound needy or clingy. The Cancer man wants lightheartedness in love—no hard talk, no judging, and no accusations.

How To Tell If A Cancer Man Is Interested — 4 Surefire Signs:

1. He Wants To Spend Time With You

If a Cancer man is interested, he will do whatever it takes to make himself known to a woman he cares for, utilizing all possible means to be around her. If he works at the same place as his interest, he’ll show up at her desk or the employee lounge when she does.

He’ll try to make conversation and crack jokes as much as possible so that she’ll laugh. He really loves to see a woman smile so if he’s into someone, he’ll make sure she smiles as often as he can get her to.

If you two do not work together, he’ll find a way to make his presence noticed. Whether that means bumping into you while grocery shopping, eating out, or having fun with friends at the bar.

No matter where you are, he’ll find a way to show up. He wants you to notice him. He’ll almost always talk to you when he does this as it would be a waste not to.

Again, he’ll try to make you smile if he can. He’ll crack silly jokes or tell you how amazing you are just to get you to turn that frown upside down. If you’re feeling sad, he’ll intuitively know and try to help you out of your slump.

It doesn’t seem to matter what is going on, a Cancer man will go above and beyond to make sure his lady of interest knows he’s into her. If he were just being nice, he wouldn’t bother to chase his love down.

If you’re ready to understand more about Cancer man, and how he behaves when he is interested in you—look no further, learn more about the signs on how he acts when he likes you here <<

2. His Care For You Increases

What I mean by care is when he wants to do things to help your life flow easier. Perhaps he sees you bending over to pick up something heavy, he runs over and won’t allow you to do it. He does it for you instead.

A Cancer man wants to take care of you as it’s his natural instinct. He is careful and tender with his friends also but as a woman of interest, he’ll really want for you to not ever have to worry.

When he starts calling to check up on you or texting you to make sure you’re alright, you’ll know he’s into you. If he shows up at your door with some chicken noodle soup when you’re sick, he’s into you.

It is likely he made the soup from scratch. Even if he didn’t though, isn’t it wonderful that he’d want to bring you some healing soup? It shows he’s concerned about you and wants to make your day/night easier.

Rather than you having to get up in your robe to make yourself a can of soup, he’s there handing you a box of Kleenex. He’s the guy that will also hold your hair back if you need to vomit. That’s a plus!

You’ll notice how your Cancer guy increases in his concerns for your welfare. If he were just being nice, he wouldn’t dive in too deeply. Yes, he’s still a really nice guy but he only gets this intimate with those he really likes or cares for.

Consider yourself one lucky woman to have a Cancer man catering to your needs or desires. Just be sure you don’t neglect his or he’ll build up some resentment over time that could cause him to have nasty mood swings.

3. He Is Protective Of Your Safety

When a Cancer man lets his feelings take over him, he’ll find that he is almost always worried about you. He will want you to call or text him when you arrive somewhere so he knows you’ve made it safely.

When you go out on a date (where protecting you may be necessary) he’ll take pride in it. Going on a boat for the day? He’ll put your life jacket on and make sure it’s nice and snug.

Perhaps you’re going to the gun range. He’ll make sure you put on some safety glasses and that your aim is true. Going hiking or climbing? He’ll make sure you have the proper gear on.

His watchful eye will never be far away from you. It almost makes him sound like an overprotective stalker doesn’t it? He isn’t though. He’s just very cautious as you are precious to him and he wants/needs to be sure you’re safe.

So when you notice that he becomes overprotective or worries about you a whole lot when he’s not with you, he’s into you. Just being nice, he wouldn’t be nearly as concerned.

Not to say he’s neglectful but from a friend standpoint, he would do common courtesy when needed otherwise, it’s not his responsibility. He will only take extreme care when he is with the woman he truly cares for.

4. When A Cancer Man Opens Up And Shares His Deepest Feelings

Typically a Cancer man will only reveal his deepest and darkest feelings with the woman he’s in love with. However, if he hasn’t made it that far but does like you, he’ll still work at letting you in.

He’ll tell you far more than he’d tell someone he’s just being nice to. When he talks to you about personal things or shares his feelings about something important, he’s into you.

Being nice and courteous is something that comes easily to the Cancer man. Only the woman of his interest will get his very best though. He is a HUGE flirt, this is true.

However, he’s got limits on it and won’t continue it if the other person becomes more attached to him than he’s willing to give. A wink, a smile, or touch of the hand is his way of flirting.

When he wants more, he digs his heels in and makes the woman of his interest KNOW his intention.

Discover more on how get a Cancer man to open up and become emotionally available.

How To Keep A Cancer Man Interested — 3 Steps To Follow

So you’ve met a wonderful and charismatic cancer man and want to keep him. What can you do to make sure he will stay interested? Perhaps you’ve already started dating one, but you’re afraid he’ll get bored or move on.

Here are some helpful hints for you to maintain your connection with Cancer man:

Be “Home” To Him

Cancer wants nothing more than to find the woman that will make him feel he’s found his soul mate, partner, and wife. Even better is showing him that he can rely on you to be his “go to” when he feels low.

Naturally he wants to come to you at any time but when he knows he can depend on you; he will see you as home. Make your home a place that is a refuge for him. Make it a comfortable place he wants to be.

Light scented candles with warm fragrances such as vanilla, musk, sandalwood, or something similar. You can also bake cookies for him if you know he’s going to come over.

Naturally if he isn’t into cookies, make him some other goodie you know he’ll enjoy eating when he’s relaxing on the sofa with you. The smell of it alone when he walks in will make him feel instantly “at home”.

The more comfortable you make your home for him; the more he’ll want to be there. Why wouldn’t he? You can place some decorations he really likes around your home to make him feel he’s welcome.

Discuss What You Both Love

It’s important that you build up your bond so that it’s harder to break it. The both of you talking together about the things you are both into will help show him that you have plenty in common.

He may worry that if you two don’t share enough in life that it may not work well. You may need to step outside your comfort zone to try some things that he likes. It’s also possible you’ll embrace some of them and then it’s more you can share.

Don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith with your Cancer guy if he asks you to. He wants to see you smile, see you happy, and feel how appreciative you are to him for all that he does for you.

Cancer man doesn’t want to waste his time with someone who isn’t fully invested in him. By truly getting to know him; you’re showing him that YOU are invested in knowing him. That’s important!

Be 100% Sincere

Cancer man wants to feel secure with the partner he settles down with. This means he absolutely has to trust you. He cannot trust you if you aren’t being sincere with him.

Whatever you say and whatever you do; make sure your integrity is in check. This man is empathic and will feel if you aren’t being authentic in your motives. Trust me when I tell you; he’ll walk away if he feels he cannot trust you.

Always say what you mean and do what you say you will do. Being flaky is something that shows your lack of respect for him. This will be a total turn off for the Cancer guy.

If he asks you something; be honest with him. While he may not like the answer; at least you’re telling him the truth. Even if he’s upset with what you’ve said; he’ll remember that you were honest.

As long as you both admit that you truly care for one another and keep that in check; you should both be alright as a couple going forward. Never lie to him. He’ll know and you’ll be finished.

How To Keep A Cancer Man Interested In A Long-Distance Relationship?

We live in times of free communication. Even if you don’t want to be bombarded with all sorts of information, you will still get them through various sources. How to tell if a Cancer man is interested in you long distance? Why don’t you try to use those communication channels in some creative ways?

Don’t text all the time and don’t have just video calls. The real magic will happen when you combine these ways. You can write your Cancer man a long romantic letter or an email speaking about the hidden desires of your soul.

This can be some sort of very intimate confession on the soul level and he will appreciate it since you are physically apart.

While you are having a video call, don’t focus on how much you miss him and don’t talk just about that or the nature of your relationship, because any repetition will create boredom. Instead of doing that, try to describe your day, add some humor to it and make him feel good and uplifted.

Cancer Man Acts Interested Then Disappears — What To Do?

Though a Cancer man can get caught up romancing a woman; he can also realize what he’s doing is probably not the right thing if he knows he won’t commit to this person.

Many Cancer men are players until they’re ready to settle down. Therefore they’ll go ahead and charm as many women as they can. The problem with this is that the women become more invested in him than he is in them.

When he realizes what is going on, he’ll sort of freak out and in an attempt to not hurt anyone,  he’ll just decide to back down or out. He’s not the best at being forthcoming or honest with what he’s really doing.

When a Cancer man loves you truly; he will stick around and not give you the “cold shoulder”. That’s how you can tell if he wants you or if he is only in it temporarily, if it all.

When he begins to not answer you right away or doesn’t reply at all, he may very well be pulling back to see what you do. Yes, he is testing you. If you keep trying to reach out multiple times a day, he will not respond.

Going by his house to confront him won’t go over well either. He’ll see this as an intrusion. Try to see it from his point of view. He wants to be your man, not the other way around. 

Let go a bit. Give him time to miss you. He cannot miss you if you’re always around or reaching out! Furthermore, he wants to be the one in the lead, not you. Back off and let him come around.

Normal Dating Advice Can Backfire With A Cancer Man…

Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches. They wanted to know if it would work with their Cancer man.

And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.


Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with a Cancer. You see, Cancer men are VERY different from men of other signs.

And if you use standard dating advice with a Cancer, it can backfire. He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.

I don’t want that to happen to you. Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.

You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him…

So he’ll NEVER want to lose you.

He’ll be wrapped around your fingerAnd it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.

These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.

So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches!

They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane.

Because your wonderful Cancer is NOT like other men… at ALL.

So go here now and find out the specific things your Cancer man needs to hear to melt his heart.



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

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