When A Cancer Man Is Not Interested — Reasons, Signs & Solutions

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
How can you tell if a Cancer man is into you or just being nice? Keep checking out this article for signs a Cancer man is not interested.

When a Cancer man is not interested what can you do? Can you salvage it and get him to see you in a different light or do you just let it go? Don’t sit and wait to figure it out, get on board and do something quickly as he may move on if you do not. Now is the time and you should do what you can before it’s too late. 

Cancer men are fickle so it’s really important to pay attention to the signs when a Cancer man is no longer interested in you. It’s better to know and do something now than to hold off and see if anything else happens. 

There are always certain signs a Cancer man just wants to be friends and isn’t interested in you romantically. If there is one man who likes to settle down and be in love, then it is him, so if he isn’t making these moves, then chances are good he is probably not interested in you.

A Cancer man not interested is as obvious as it comes, but perhaps you are looking at him with rose-tinted glasses and not recognising that he isn’t interested in you at all. So how to know when a Cancer man is not interested?

Don’t procrastinate! Keep on reading to find out how to tell if a Cancer man is not interested so you can take quick steps to keep him!

What Makes A Cancer Man Not Interested In A Woman?

There are certain behaviours that totally put a Cancer man off. This is a guy who knows exactly what he wants in his relationships, so when he sees that you are the exact opposite of this, it can really make him take two steps back and away from you. 

He doesn’t like it when a woman is aloof or detached as he really likes affection and adoration. He really dislikes it when his partner displays hot and cold energy as this makes him feel uncertain and insecure in the relationship.

Unreliability is another one of the traits he absolutely despises in a partner, he wants to know that he can depend on you at all times. A Cancer man also feels quite uncomfortable with a woman who is disloyal and flirts with other men.

Do Cancer Men Lose Interest Easily?

I would have to say that Cancer men are actually very loyal and protective of their feelings. This means that it is very rare for a Cancer man to fall for a woman, and then to leave her like a hot potato. 

When a Cancer man is in, he is all in and it will take a lot for him to feel turned off by a woman. But he still has very high standards, and that is why it takes a while for him to fall for someone in the first place.

3 Signs A Cancer Man Just Wants To Be Friends (And Is Not Ready For A Relationship)

There are some signs that are incredibly obvious that show that a Cancer man just wants to be friends. Knowing these signs will definitely prevent you from making a fool of yourself with a Cancer man. 

  • He Never Gets Jealous Around You. A Cancer man is very possessive over the woman he loves and when he just doesn’t get jealous over you, it is a pretty good indication that he probably doesn’t have feelings for you. 
  • He Talks About How He Misses His Ex. When a Cancer man loves, he loves deeply. This man can definitely get lost in the past and still hold very strong feelings for his ex-partner. If he talks about her a lot and mentions that he wants to get back with her then he probably only sees you as a friend. 
  • He Just Got Out Of A Relationship. After a breakup, a Cancer man will put himself out there again in the hopes of moving on and finding someone new to love. However, he may realize he isn’t ready yet and would prefer to be just friends with the women he meets. He just needs some patience. 
What if the Cancer you dream of being with only wants to be friends with you? Here are more heartbreaking signs a Cancer man just wants to be friends.

How To Tell If A Cancer Man Is Not Interested Or Doesn’t Like You — 7 Obvious Signs To Look Out For

1. He Is Nice But Not Consistent 

If a Cancer man isn’t interested in anything more than being friends, he will be very nice, flirty, and seem as though he might be into you but then he won’t ever follow through.

He’ll suggest getting together to hang out because maybe he does want to but only as a friend or only for a hook up. Then he’ll flake out or he’ll never go ahead and ask you out.

He won’t text you or he’ll be very short with his responses to your texts. He looks flaky and confusing but this is his way of letting you know that he’s just not feeling it.

If you find that he’s making conversation by talking about cool places to go or fun things to do, he may just be making small talk or trying not to be rude. Of course, if he asks you to do something sometime then flakes out, that’s a good sign he’s likely not into it.

He’s pretty good at hiding out or pulling back into his shell when he knows a lady is interested in him but he isn’t into her or is already involved with someone else. That’s another common problem.

You may find out this guy has a girlfriend and he’s just a really flirty guy. He flirted with you but he didn’t mean anything by it. You hear by word of mouth he’s taken and it’s frustrating. Watch for inconsistencies and red flags.

2. You Get The Vibe He Is Only Being “Nice”

There is no doubt that Cancer Man is one of the nicest guys around, and he is very sought out for advice. When it comes to introspection about whatever they are going through, women know they can count on him to help them.

The niceness of his nature is often misconstrued by women as being an indication of his interest in more. In most cases, he isn’t. The woman misunderstands his intentions because he is doing what comes naturally to him which is caring and listening.

You need to think about what transpired between you two before assuming he likes you. Did he help you with anything? Could it be that he’s just a lovely co-worker?

Don’t let your hormones push you to jump his sexy body. Look at the situation rationally instead. Women are attracted to men who are helpful and exceedingly nice. However, it doesn’t mean he likes you.

He may just be being pleasant or want to be friends if he’s been nice to you and suggested hanging out. Because cancer men understand women, they tend to have female friends.

It is important to keep in mind that Cancer men have a flirty demeanor, even if they have a wife or girlfriend. Only if you push the line too far will they tell you otherwise.

Otherwise, they will make it seem like they’re this awesome guy who wants to get together but come to find out, he is either just in it for a hook up or he’s just being flirty and not interested in a relationship.

Despite its appearance, he isn’t intentionally leading you on. There’s no doubt that he’s a nice guy, but sometimes he’s perceived incorrectly because he doesn’t want to hurt you.

3. You Seem To Be The Big Mysterious Secret In His Life

When a Cancer man gets together with you to spend time and doesn’t take you anywhere or introduce you to anyone, you’re just a friend. Possibly he is just trying to get into your pants or see how far you will let him go.

It is not uncommon for Cancer men to have friends with benefits and to reserve their full commitment for the woman they believe is “the one”. If he isn’t taking you out to meet his friends, family, or coworkers then he is probably not really that into you.

He is maintaining this level of secrecy because he doesn’t want to have anything more with you than what he already has. Depending on what you allow him to do, it may be only friendship or a sexual tryst.

Never think for one second that having sex with him will make him want to be more than just friends with you. He doesn’t operate that way. It is unlikely that he would keep you a secret if he cares about you and wants to be with you.

He will also not initiate a relationship by sexing you up first. In most cases, it’s the other way around. Be honest with yourself. Unless he wants a full-on relationship, he’s not the one for you.

A secret relationship means you aren’t his girlfriend and are unlikely to become his girlfriend. He’s good at keeping secrets also when he’s actually married or already in a relationship. Ladies, take caution!

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4. You Can Never Depend On Him To Be There For You

Cancer men are always willing to help those in need. However, if he has helped you a few times, he is starting to flake out; he is communicating that he is done.

When a Cancer man isn’t there for you, he isn’t with you and never will be. Because he’s unlikely to change his mind, you should cut your losses and find someone else who will support you.

If he has been dating you but isn’t putting any effort into it; he’s done. Whenever he feels that things aren’t going well, he stops putting in the effort. What’s the point of trying if it’s not going to last is his way of thinking.

He is going against his natural way of being helpful and supportive to make it very clear to you that he isn’t interested. 

5. You Never Hear From Him

A Cancer man going quiet isn’t always a bad sign – he often needs space to recharge. If he takes a while to respond, don’t worry about it. Your texts will always be ignored if he isn’t interested. In general, Cancer men are good at responding to texts. 

It is enjoyable for them to communicate via text with their friends and family members. Despite not always texting first, Cancer men are excellent at responding. You won’t receive a response if he’s not interested in you. He might ignore flirtatious texts, but respond to others if he wants to be friends. 

Cancer men have a hard time telling people they don’t want to talk to them directly – he is a perpetual people pleaser. You may find a Cancer man always leaving you on read. In addition, he may block you if you text him too much and he doesn’t want to speak with you.

6. He Always Cancels And Is Unreliable

It is not the norm for Cancer men to reject people outright – they hate hurting people’s feelings. If backed into a corner, a Cancer man might make plans with you even if he’s not interested in you. However, he won’t keep his promises because essentially spending time with you isn’t something he wants to do. 

Cancer men are likely to cancel on you last minute or say they “forgot”. If you have mutual friends with the Cancer man, this might happen. If you two regularly hang out with your friends or attend events together, he may not want to offend you by rejecting you outright. It is important for him to keep the peace and not make things awkward.

Because he’s not actively focused on you, a Cancer man might legitimately forget about the plans. It is likely that he will forget about you if he is not interested. It is also possible that he cancels constantly on purpose. When a Cancer man is flaky, he might hope you will back off. It is all strategy. 

7. He Is Cold And Unfriendly Towards You

What are the signs that a Cancer man has lost interest? He may no longer be interested in you if he was previously warm and affectionate with you. But now you notice him be very cold and detached around you. It is like speaking to a brick wall of unfriendliness.

If a Cancer man sends mixed signals and alternates between hot and cold, he may not know what he feels for you. Unless he’s interested in you, he’ll remain cold towards you. Give him time to figure out his feelings, it is important that you are patient with him.

When a Cancer man acts coldly toward you, it will be obvious. It won’t matter if he’s shy, he’ll still seem friendly and welcoming. If he doesn’t like you, he will be distant and closed off. Trust me, you will be able to tell the difference when a Cancer man is not interested. 

You need to establish a pattern of him acting coldly toward you. If a Cancer man doesn’t feel well one day, he might act cold, but the next time you see him, he’ll be his usual self. 

Take note of the way he usually treats you and if his behaviour has been different for a prolonged time, then chances are good he doesn’t want tp pursue things with you.

What If A Cancer Man Just Wants To Be Friends With Benefits?

Being friends with benefits with a Cancer man is one of those tricky situations that can work out splendidly, but it can also prove to be totally horrific and ruin a very good friendship. 

Chances are good that you can really fall for him because he is such an amazing lover. But then you might be really disappointed to see that he really doesn’t see you as more than friends. 

I can promise you this isn’t some secret way he is trying to tell you he wants a relationship with you, and if this is what you are thinking, you’re going to be very disappointed. 

However, I do know some tips and tricks on how to evolve friends with benefits with a Cancer man into a relationship…

React Quickly When A Cancer Man Is No Longer Interested!

Knowing how to keep a Cancer man interested is the key you need to learn and understand if you want to have a successful and thriving relationship with him. This isn’t impossible – trust me, he is a lot easier to get than you might think!

You need to make sure that you love and adore him. A Cancer man responds really well to positive affirmation and feeling secure in his relationship. You can make his day by just reassuring him of your feelings.

For the Cancer man to stay interested he needs to know that he can trust you… This is a man who has definitely been burned in the past, so knowing that you are loyal will mean the world to him.

It is also important that he knows that you need him. A Cancer man seriously thrives off of being helpful and supportive. So when he can give you a helping hand it makes him feel closer to you.

FAQ About A Cancer Man Losing Interest In You

Lets wrap things up by taking a closer look at the questions I get most often about why a Cancer man loses interest in you:

How To Tell If A Cancer Man Is Shy But Still Likes Me?

A Cancer man is by nature shy, however, when he has feelings for a woman he will always make this known by his actions. Whenever a Cancer man likes someone, his feelings cannot be misunderstood. Despite being subtle, the signs will be clear and you will know how he feels about you. 

Another sign that he is in love with you is that he spends more time with you and enjoys your company. By spending time with you, he will be able to learn more about you. He wants to become totally involved in your life and understand who you are.

He will open up more once he has relaxed and he’ll no longer come across so shy. Usually, a private person, opening up means he values you and is serious about the relationship.

Cancer men become protective of those they care about and it shows in their gestures. Your safety and well-being will be his first concerns, and you will feel safe in his presence. His actions and tone will show his concern.  

Can A Cancer Man Who Has Lost Interest Come Back?

The one very positive thing about a Cancer man is that he loves to reminisce and think about the past. This makes it very easy for him to remember the good times and want to give something a second chance. 

With time he may come to realize that he was wrong about you and start to miss being around you. However, you cannot force this and it has to build over time so being patient is key if you want to get your Cancer man back. 

It is important that you work on yourself and do things that make you happy in the meantime so that your Cancer man can see that you have grown and evolved into a woman he may want to be with. 

Should I Text A Cancer Man First?

As I have mentioned numerous times; Cancer men are incredibly shy and reserved. These aren’t the type of guys who will make the first move. These men need to know that you are interested first.

This is why I would encourage most women to text a Cancer man first if you think you may have felt a spark with him. He may be too scared and intimidated to make the first move. So go for it, just don’t overwhelm him with a lot of texts!

Does Your Cancer Man Pull Away After Intimacy?

Does your Cancer man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Or does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?

Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.

And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…

Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his Astrology.

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when your Cancer man pulls back..

No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

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About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

2 thoughts on “When A Cancer Man Is Not Interested — Reasons, Signs & Solutions

  1. My cancer man is all over the place..professes he wants to be with me, but crawls into his shell when the slightest conflict comes up. He told me he had a fight with his roommate and then he practically disappeared for 2 days. I am depending on him, he bought the car I was driving and we are supposed to go look for a new one. He talks a lot about sex and love but when I really need him he’s not there…I think he’s done..I’m pretty sure I am because I can’t handle a pouty person who can’t deal with life. Any advice?

    1. I have known 2 cancers born on the same day…my son and my lover for the last 20 yrs…no consistancy no commitment….their own pleadure before all.They xill call up 3 days running to announce their arrival and then spend the day with family and call the day after suprised at the rebuff….

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