Are Cancer men jealous or possessive? Many clients ask me that because they want to know if they need to worry about dropping their male friends or making some changes to accommodate their Cancer man’s desires. Here are some things for you to keep in mind.
There is a reason why Cancer is described as a “Crab”. He is an emotionally driven man who can be moody often. As such, he can often display some feelings that seem rather unnecessary or uncalled for.
This can make a woman feel as though he’s clingy or doesn’t understand the value of his partner being able to keep some secrets to herself. He is good at keeping secrets himself but doesn’t like it when his partner does.
This can also play a role in how he reacts to situations such as jealousy or feeling possessive. His moods can make him more intense at times or more laid back depending on how he’s feeling at any point in time.
That being said, he can go either way on any given day. That rhymes! It’s true though. You never are sure what side of Cancer you may get on any particular day. His moods change often.
He can wake up crabby thus being abrasive in a way or he can wake up in a fabulous mood and nothing can shake him. Optimism around him may help him stay a bit more on the good side.
Cancer man needs a partner who understands that he’s sensitive and will provide him with more optimism and positive vibes. It will help him stay aligned with his life purpose in helping others.
Flat out, yes, Cancer can be rather jealous, because he wants to keep what is his to himself. He will not take kindly to any man trying to move in on his woman or try to lure her away.
Cancer is the type of guy that will react badly to other guys leaving comments, hitting like, or indicating some type of flirt on his partner’s social media accounts. Whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or any other type of site, he’ll be watching.
Any tiny indication of appreciation from another man will make him suspicious. Whether or not his partner is doing anything to make him jealous, he’ll rear his green head.
Ladies, if you have really good male friends, you will have to keep an eye on this as well. He will have to be VERY comfortable with these friends or he’ll always think they want to get with you.
I’m not too sure that there is a big difference between possessive behavior and jealousy. They’re both with the understanding of “don’t mess with what is mine and that includes my woman”.
It’s kind of a primal type of feeling. He feels he’s won the prize that others covet. Therefore he’s going to be protective and always be watching to make sure no one intrudes on what he believes to be his.
He thinks in the terms of “My girl”… or later on … “MY wife”. He takes it very seriously and if his partner doesn’t take it as seriously as he does, he will find offense and it could be an issue.
Cancer man is possessive with his things and with his relationships. Not just his lover but also his children, his family, his friends, and anyone else he feels justified in claiming.
So the answer to the original question is: YES! He is most likely going to be jealous and/or possessive when he’s in love with someone. He doesn’t want anyone interfering or trying to steal what he feels is his.
Is his jealousy turn on or turn off for you?
Naturally, when you find that the Cancer man is jealous and possessive, you have to decide if you’re the type of woman who is turned on by the fact that he’s that protective or if you’re turned off by his behavior.
Some women find it very endearing that their guy wants to keep her close and wants to spend so much time with her. Other women will find it to be a nuisance and possibly a deal breaker for her.
Each Cancer man will have a variance in their behavior based on their Rising sign and perhaps moon sign. Their sun sign alone will not fully tell you who he is and how jealous he actually is.
Some of them may be extremely this way and others may be a bit more laid back regarding your male friends or your social media interactions. Get to know your guy and find out which way he may lean.
You have to make a decision
Do you find yourself getting turned on at the thought of your Cancer guy telling you he doesn’t like your male friends or doesn’t want you hanging out with them alone?
Perhaps you are totally repulsed at the idea of this guy needing to know your whereabouts at all times and is constantly monitoring your social media interactions.
You need to truly get to know your Cancer guy before you become more serious with him. By learning a whole lot more, you’ll be able to discover just how far he may lean on the subject.
It will also give you an idea of what is acceptable or not acceptable to you for the future. Remember that Cancer plays for keeps. If you’re ready to settle down, he’s a great person to do it with.
Take your time, pace yourself, and truly learn who he is as well as who you are with him. It’s important to look at the relationship as a whole as well as the potential it may or may not have.
An overall view will help you to decide if he’s the right one for you or if you should move on.