How To Get A Cancer Man To Commit — The Ultimate Guide On Cancer Man Commitment

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Are you dating a Cancer man but want to become more serious with him? Here are some simple ideas to get a Cancer man to commit to you.

If you’re in a casual relationship with a Cancer man and are wondering how to get him to commit fully, this is the guide for you. As a relationship Astrologer, I often receive questions like “my Cancer man is acting hot and cold, how can I get him to commit to me?”

How to get a Cancer man to commit is relatively easy, but there are a few things you need to know about how this man operates. This is why I have decided to design this relationship advice guide with a list of the best advice to make a Cancer man commit without pressure.

Are you stuck in limbo with your Cancer man? And want to know how to make a Cancer man commit to you? Then you have definitely come to the right place.

Please continue reading to find out exactly what steps you need to take to make a Cancer man commit to you

Getting A Cancer Man To Commit — The Basics

What a Cancer man wants? He wants to be with someone who is herself and is not trying to be someone else. He is very intuitive and will be able to detect whether you’re being authentic or if you’re being fake. 

Do not try to be someone that you aren’t just because you think he’ll like it better. Tell him your hopes and dreams, and share with him what you appreciate in life. This is how you get to know each other and how you open up to him so that he can see who you really are.

It is far preferable for him to fall in love with a woman for who she truly is rather than who he believes she is. Once he figures out that a woman isn’t really who she portrays, he’s likely to cut the strings and be done.

The most important thing for a Cancer man is an emotional bond with the woman he is with. Without this connection he is less likely to be interested in the relationship, this is why being yourself and being okay with being vulnerable is pretty important if you want him to commit to you. 

How Long Does It Take For A Cancer Man To Commit?

Being an intuitive water sign, the Cancer man really knows how to take his time when it comes to relationships. He is definitely different from the type to rush into a commitment, and this is because he needs to be really sure about you.

Putting pressure on him will only freak him out and make him want to run away, so take things slow with him and get to know him first. You have to realize and recognize if you want him.

Don’t give him so much power that you sit around waiting to be loved by him, you need to know within your soul that you have a choice too. But stepping into your femininity will definitely help to move things along.

7 Sure Signs A Cancer Man Is Ready To Commit

Below are the significant things to look for when you’re ready to commit with your Cancer man. Is he there and ready too? Let’s find out. Take a peek at the hints I have for you below:

1. He Pays The Check

Cancer men want to take care of you and provide for you when they love you. It’s his way of showing you he’s your guy. His willingness to pay for dates and other necessities shows his commitment. He sees you as his future wife and wants to get serious.

Cancer men who aren’t at that point may seem selfish or cheap. The truth is, they hold out for the right person. When he’s ready to build a lasting bond with you, he’ll spare no expense (if he can).

Perhaps he will surprise you with a gift. Bringing you flowers, candy, wine, or something you like is an expression of his devotion.

2. He Opens Up To You More

Cancer men sometimes take time to open up about their deepest desires. It tells you that he can trust you if he starts doing this. Trust builds commitment.

Trust is important to this man. He wants to feel secure with the woman he plans to marry. Being open with you is a sign he’s ready to stay with you.

A Cancer man views commitment as the foundation of his future. Talk to him about his family, past relationships, and his goals for the future.

Being open with you is huge. It means: “I trust you enough to open my heart and share my story.” Don’t underestimate that!

3. He Includes You In His Plans

Cancer man will definitely include you in his plans. That means future plans, present plans, etc. His life won’t be complete without you. When he talks to you about his future plans, he uses “us” and “we” instead of “me” and “I.” This is a sign that he considers you a fixture. Commitment with a capital C.

To him, you are not temporary. Taking this step means he’s ready to make your relationship more concrete when he does. If he asks you to go with him to the grocery store or shopping, you’ll know you’re in! Couples do domestic things together. 

Congratulations, my friend! No matter what he says, he’s committed to you. You can trust his commitment behavior. 

4. Welcome Home! His Home Is Yours

A Cancer man who is ready to commit will accommodate you in his home. Maybe he’ll buy you a toothbrush. Perhaps he will buy soap or shampoo for you. If you stay for more than just the night, he will likely make space for you in his bedroom where he keeps his clothes. 

His place will feel like yours. It’s how he wants you to feel. When you are with him, he wants you to feel safe, secure, and comfortable. Merging with you has endless possibilities. When he’s ready to commit, he may ask you to move in. This is a serious step. His hope for the future will be boosted by having you in the same house. Don’t be surprised if he asks you to move in!

5. He Starts Talking About His Thoughts On Marriage

As soon as a Cancer man starts talking about marriage and what he wants for the future, it’s obvious. He is trying to gauge your reactions, even if he doesn’t include you. He wants to know what you think and how you feel about it. This lets him know whether you’d be ready to commit and (perhaps marry!) one day.

He may even bring up children. In that way, he is telling you that being serious is on his mind, and he needs to know where you stand. Tell him what stirs your heart and what you desire most regarding family and long-term commitment. You’ll likely get an indication your Cancer man wants to commit. 

6. You Are His Priority

Regarding his job, I cannot guarantee that this will happen. Maintaining a career or job is important for making his nest egg grow. It’s unlikely he’d choose you over his work. It’s impractical for you both. Besides that, he will pick you over pretty much anything else.

In his mind, you’re half of him, so he wants you around all the time. His goal is to make you happy, feel good, and show you he values you. You’ve got him when he spends lots more time with him because he asked for it. The long road ahead awaits him, and he is ready to commit.

Related: How To Become A Priority For Your Cancer Man

7. It’s Time To Meet The Family

This is a huge commitment from Cancer man. He doesn’t take just anyone home. When he’s serious about someone, he’ll do this. He will bring you home to meet his family and his closest friends.

He will introduce her to the most important people in his life. You’re it! His love for you is solidified once he brings you home. You’re joining the family. A cancer man takes his loved ones seriously. His love for you is serious. His friends and family know his devotion.

He is totally loyal and wonderful. Then again, the family often tells you things that aren’t so savory. They won’t talk him up unless he’s worth it. This will give you a good idea if you want to commit. Additionally, they will express their opinion about you to him.

How To Get A Cancer Man To Commit — 5 Ways To Make Him Realize He Wants You

Whatever makes your heart pull to your Cancer man, you need to make sure he feels the same way. How can you get a Cancer man to settle down and commit to you?

I’ve got some excellent tips that do work to make sure your Cancer guy doesn’t hit the bricks. He will snuggle up next to you and stay… for good! Let’s take a peek at how to make Cancer get closer to you. 

1. Smother Him In Appreciation

Your crab man is one that absolutely loves it when his partner is affectionate and attentive. He eats up compliments like candy. Try to make sure he feels important to you. 

You can send your Cancer man texts that will melt his heart; tell him how handsome he is, how funny he is, and how he makes you feel when you’re with him. He needs to feel as though you truly appreciate his presence and care. 

This type of flattery makes him feel as though he’s something really special to you. He wants to see you more and for longer periods of time. This can very much lead to a commitment. 

When he does something for you, be thankful. Tell him you really appreciate his assistance. Heck, you can ask him for advice just so you can tell him how much it means to you. 

It’s crucial that you never take advantage of his kindness. He needs to hear how wonderful you think he is and how he makes you feel appreciated as well. Positive feedback is a must with him. 

This is definitely one of the most important measures you need to take if you want to activate the how to get a Cancer man to settle down and commit to you!

If you’ve been struggling with how to capture his heart, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Cancer Man Love Challenge… It has all the secrets to becoming his dream woman in no time!

2. Give Him Physical Closeness

While he can be rather sexual, the Cancer man also craves other forms of intimacy. He loves kissing, holding hands, and caressing one another. 

He’s also one for public displays of affection (PDA) as well. He doesn’t mind people seeing how much you care for one another. A Cancer guy proudly holds your hand in front of everyone.

I also have to let you know that they are the type of man that doesn’t mind getting even friskier than that in front of other people… They can be a bit showy with their love.

Sex is a given. Cancer men typically have a high libido. Unless they are emotionally distraught, they will want to be with you.  Emotions can put a damper on their sexual drive at times.

They get overloaded with things in life and make them feel less than frisky. Do not worry, it’s not you! If your guy is pulling back a little in that department, he’s probably just tired or stressed out.

Whenever possible, I suggest you give him closeness. It doesn’t mean you have to have sex with him but do cover him in kisses and give him lots of hugs. That affection can provide healing to him.

It also lets him feel your energy that gravitate the two of you together. This is important for a Cancer man to commit to you. 

One thing a Cancer man really likes is when you ever so gently massage the top of his arms and hands with your nails or fingertips. It sends shivers down his spine.

3. Show Him He’s The Only One

Cancer men not only want loyalty, but they want to feel as though there is no one else in your life that makes you feel the way he does. He wants to be the one and only guy for you!

I would suggest that if you have male friends that you introduce them to your Cancer guy. It will help ease any jealousy that could possibly be there. You’ll also probably need to cut back a bit with your friend as well.

I don’t mean you have to do that forever, but while you’re trying to get your Cancer man to settle down and commit to you; you have to do such things to make him comfortable with you. 

When you’re on social media, try to mention your Cancer love. He will see it and feel cared for which in turn makes him care for you as well. 

If you want him to commit to you and stay with you, you’ve got to let him know you only have eyes for him. 

Post pictures of the two of you to share with all of your friends and perhaps even your family. It makes him feel welcome and that he’s important to you. In turn, he will also do the same.

Cancer men love to put their lady in Queen Status when he feels close. You’ll get there but you need to show him he’s the only guy that can make you feel the way he does. 

4. Your Home Should Be His Second Home

Naturally, Cancer men appreciate a home base. If you can make your home the other place, he likes to be outside of his own, you’ll really solidify things with him. 

If you two are dating and he visits your home, try burning warm scents to reel him in. He loves vanilla and jasmine. You can burn candles, incense, or oils in a diffuser. 

He loves scents that make him feel at home. Make sure your place is clean and inviting. Get him a fluffy decorative pillow that’s just for him on your sofa or even bed.

You can create a drawer for when he wants to stay over. You can also buy him his own toothbrush so that he can brush while he’s at your home. The more he feels cozy there, the more he will want to spend time with you. 

Ask him what makes him feel comfortable at his own home and try to accommodate him as much as you can at yours. Invite him over to watch a movie and have pizza.

5. Ask For His Help

You definitely should be asking your Cancer guy for help. I wouldn’t recommend it all the time, but it’s the idea of turning to him. He loves this! 

Ask him for advice, ask him to help you with your car, or anything that would allow him to help you and feel good about himself. It also shows your trust in him. 

He’s thrilled when you ask him for help. He feels honored and more attracted to you. I know that may sound kind of odd but trust me, it’s not. He is drawn to a woman that needs him and values him. 

Ask him to help you with dinner if you have him over to cook. I mean, you can find anything really that would be nice for him to help with. Again, don’t do it all the time though.

The last thing you want to do is come off as needy. He wants to feel wanted or needed but not to the extreme to where you’d be clingy and cannot do things yourself. 

It’s a matter of finding the balance. Do it where it makes sense and you’ll notice how much the Cancer man loves doing things for you. It helps bring the two of you closer. 

When A Cancer Man Doesn’t Want To Commit — 4 Possible Reasons Why Cancer Men Avoid Commitment

There are some factors that may prevent a Cancer man from wanting to commit, here are some of the possible reasons he is choosing not to commit to you:

1. He’s Focused On His Goals

Cancer men need financial security just like Capricorns. He won’t mention commitment if that’s the case. The Cancer man needs to achieve his goals, whether they’re owning a home, starting a business, or simply saving. 

It is only through stability that he can be the attentive, affectionate, and caring partner he naturally is. After he has established himself as a man and provider, he will be more than happy to be your lover. Give him time to get there.

2. He’s Afraid To Be Vulnerable

Cancer men have an invisible wall up. He fears vulnerability, which explains his sensitive nature. Because he’s an emotional water sign, talking about his emotions isn’t easy for him. He prefers to keep his feelings to himself. 

Talk about his childhood, discuss his future goals, or rehash a relationship that shaped who he is today. He loves a patient and caring woman. Alternatively, a fearful Cancer Crab will open up if you give him a little time and reinforcement. Having gained his trust, he will protect you forever.

Let him know you are someone he can lean on by slowing down. Every little thing you do to make the Cancer man feel more comfortable around you counts; it might be making his lunch or dropping off fresh flowers. As you gain trust, he’s more likely to commit. 

3. He’s Unsure About Your Relationship

Before committing, this guy needs to feel emotionally and financially safe. It’s impossible for a Cancer man to resist getting down on one knee and professing his undying love to the woman he loves. 

However, he is turned off by relationships without potential. In the event he wants children, he will not commit to you if he does not see you as his future wife. He has a vision of the perfect partner and family in his head, and he will not be satisfied until he finds them. 

Even the slightest bit of uncertainty about your relationship will make him run back into his shell. From day one, be honest and upfront about yourself. Tell him what you want so he knows what to expect. 

4. He’s Still Wounded Over His Ex

A Cancer man in love is loyal, devoted, emotionally attached, and inseparable. What happens when his love leaves, leaving him heartbroken? How does the sensitive Cancer man cope? Future commitments scare him.

It has been my experience that few men are more broken than Cancer men who have been abandoned or betrayed by their loved ones. If the Cancer man is still heartbroken, loyalty to (or pain inflicted by) his ex will prevent him from committing to you.

What is the antidote to healing a wounded Cancer man? Consistency, space, and time. Heartbroken Cancer men need a caring yet strong woman to nurse them back to health. Don’t force him. He will always come back better than before if you follow his lead.

How To Know If A Cancer Man Is Serious About You?

When a Cancer man is serious about you there are no guessing games needing to happen on your part. It will be very clear what his intentions are with you. You will feel his love and affection and there will be no doubt in your mind about where you stand with him. 

He will be extremely affectionate with you and prioritize your presence in his life. A Cancer man that is serious about you will be open and extremely vulnerable with you. 

He will let you know how he feels about you and he will be very clear about what his intentions are moving forward. The place you have in his future won’t be something you have to doubt or be worried about.

FAQ On Cancer Man And Commitment

If you are still feeling unsure and unclear about what to expect from a Cancer man and commitment, then these frequently asked questions might bring things to light for you:

Are Cancer Men Slow To Commit?

Cancer men are very slow to commit. They take their time and make sure that they are committing to the right person. The last thing he wants to do is have his heart broken and this is why he goes at a snail’s pace. Don’t take it personally. 

Do Cancers Have Commitment Issues?

Cancer men don’t usually have commitment issues, they just take their time. However, if a Cancer man has been badly burnt in the past he may struggle to trust again and this is why he chooses to take his time. 

What Keeps A Cancer Man Interested And Committed?

The most important piece of the puzzle for a Cancer man is knowing that he has a genuinely strong emotional bond with a woman. He needs to know that she is someone he can rely on. He wants a committed partner who he can trust no matter what. 

If you are a source of strength and a rock he can lean on then this is a man who will give you his life. 

Your Cancer Man Will Be Yours In 30 Days (Or Walk Away)…

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About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

5 thoughts on “How To Get A Cancer Man To Commit — The Ultimate Guide On Cancer Man Commitment

  1. I started dating my 1st cancer man May of 2021 it took about a year then I moved in is a Rollercoaster ride emotionally indeed. We still struggle with physical intimacy and he constantly says I’m never getting married AGAIN or I will NEVER marry u ..something I have never even mentioned frustrates me but then I read these cancer points and it all makes so much sense he’s been married 2x and is extremely broken it has taken every bit of patience I can muster but we love each other very much and I have hope lol ….

    1. Hi Deanna,
      Cancer men don’t usually have commitment issues, they just take their time. However, if a Cancer man has been badly burnt in the past he may struggle to trust again and this is why he chooses to take his time. You should be patient with him.
      Sending Love!

  2. Hi Anna, I’ve been reading most of your articles on the Cancer man. The man I’m dating had a bad breakup w his ex. He has custody of his child.He works a lot,we don’t see each other a lot.
    He doesn’t ask about my life and doesn’t volunteer alot about himself.He will only if I initiate it.i don’t know if he is afraid to commit and shy or if I’m just an amusement. It’s been almost 4 months,do I ask him where we are at or be patient?

    1. Dear Jen,
      You can tell him your viewpoint, ask him how he sees this relationship going but ultimately, tell him that you’ll be there for him no matter what he does. This is a very important secret to a happy relationship with a Cancer man. Talk to each other about important things. Make him feel like he’s in control because if there’s chaos in a situation, Cancer will stay away from it at all costs. Once you have his mind, you will also gain his heart. Keep the conversation alive, don’t sound needy or clingy. He wants light-heartedness in love, no hard talk, no judging and accusations. I hope all goes well for you both!

  3. I am doing all your suggestions,giving compliments,telling him he is hamesome,how he makes me laugh.send him cute caring texts.

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