Hello, my gorgeous ladies! I hope you are all doing well and ready to learn all the ins and outs of dating a Cancer man. These guys are pretty wonderful, but they can also be quite confusing at times.
Cancer men are known for their sensitive and nurturing nature, which can make asking them out a bit challenging. This is why it is so important to know how to ask a Cancer man out, you need to work gently with them and not scare them off.
Do you know what questions to ask a Cancer man to make him hooked and what to get to know you? If you don’t then I am going to help you with the right approach and understanding of their personality traits, you can increase your chances of successfully asking a Cancer man out.
If this sounds like just the right thing you need, then keep on reading to find out exactly how to ask a Cancer man out to make him smitten with you.
I will reveal all my tips and tricks to ensure that you can create the best relationship with your Cancer man ever.
Should I Ask A Cancer Man Out? (4 Undeniable Hints)
1. He Initiates Contact With You
When a Cancer man is constantly reaching out to you through text messages, calls, and through social media then it should be quite clear that he is interested in you. Ask yourself, how often do the two of you speak?
If the answer to this is quite often then chances are pretty good that he is actually quite interested in you and that he would love to go out with you on a date. If the two of you communicate often then I don’t see a reason why you shouldn’t ask him out! Go for it!
2. He Opens Up To You
Cancer men are very protective of their emotions. These guys are quite sensitive and emotional. And that means that they tend to have quite a few walls built up around their hearts. They don’t always open up to others.
Cancer men tend to be guarded with their emotions, so if he starts opening up and sharing personal details with you, it’s a strong indication that he likes you and that he is probably waiting for you to ask him out!
3. He Prioritizes Your Needs
When a Cancer man likes you, he will prioritize your needs and wants, showing that he cares about your happiness and well-being. You can tell when you talk to him that he values you quite highly and wants to know that you are okay.
He is making an effort with you because you have a special place in his heart. He is likely dying to spend more time with you so it would be a really good idea for you to ask him out so that the two of you can spend some one-on-one time together.
4. He Is Affectionate
Cancer men are typically affectionate and nurturing, so if he starts touching your hand or hugging you it’s a clear sign that he has developed feelings for you. He might be too shy to ask you out.
However, when he spends time with you he may not be able to help himself and feels the need to get closer to you. He isn’t like this with everyone, so if you like him back you should definitely ask him out and see where things go with him!
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7 Tips To Ask A Cancer Man Out
1. Show Him Who You Are
The Cancer man is a much sought-after man. For a woman to stand out to him; she will have to do a bit of work. You’ll need to basically romance him and sweep him off his feet.
Show him that you’re a woman who has a huge heart, a wonderful soul, and the qualities that he’s looking for in a wife/mother for his children. That’s ultimately what he’s trying to find in a wife.
You’ll want to let him know how much you also desire to find the right person, marry, and have children. Giving him that knowledge makes him take you more seriously.
Talk to him about what he’s looking for as far as family and his future. Showing interest when he’s getting to know you; will let him see that you’re a very caring person who is interested in who he is.
Here’s more on what a Cancer man likes and dislikes in a woman.
2. Talk To Him, A Lot
One of the most important things to a Cancer man is security. To get that though; he has to make sure that you’re going to be stable for him and that you’re someone he can trust in.
This will take time and while you’re trying to grow a bond; talk to him as much as you can. Text him, message him, call him, or talk in any way that you can. This also lets him see that you’re interested in him authentically and not just for the surface.
Ask him lots of questions about his goals, dreams, and what he wants to build for his future. He’ll be impressed that you care that much about what he wants in life. It will make him look at you differently.
While a good friend will get to know him; a possible lover will want to know the most important qualities of the Cancer man. That means you need to really get to know what he likes or doesn’t like.
3. Build Trust
A Cancer man wants to know that the woman he chooses to go on a date withholds the possibility of a future. He doesn’t like wasting time and effort with someone he doesn’t see having a possible future with.
That being said; you will have to spend lots of time talking as I mentioned. After doing this for a while and you can tell he’s comfortable with you, ask him out. He will likely make the first move but if he doesn’t, it’s okay if you give a gentle push.
Make it something fun and wonderful. He needs to see that he can rely on you and trust that you have his best interest at heart. He is empathetic so he will sense if you’re not being genuine with him.
Cancer men can have casual encounters but typically if that’s what he’s after; he’ll probably reveal himself very quickly as far as his intention. He’s not one to lead you on for too long.
4. Be Honest! No Games Necessary
A Cancer man wants a woman he can be real with. He wants his woman to be real with him as well. If you really like him; you’re going to have to just be honest with him by saying “I would really like to get to know you more”.
He’ll appreciate the candor and at that point should let you know if there is a possibility with him or not. Cancer men are very nice to just about everyone so sometimes it’s hard to tell.
However, if you’re straight with him; he’ll be straight with you whether or not he has any interest in pursuing what he has with you further or if he’d just like to remain friends.
While he may not always be a pillar of truth; he will respect you when you are honest with how you feel. He’ll feel the authenticity and that is as genuine as you can get.
5. Go For The Risk
After you’ve gone through the process of getting closer to the Cancer guy you like and showing him that you’re into him, why not ask him out? Asking a Cancer man out may seem scary, but it’s not as bad as you think.
Sometimes Cancer men can be rather shy and fearful of rejection, so they won’t take the initiative. If you can tell that he may be interested in you, then go ahead and take the plunge.
Ask him to go hang out with you and your friends if you’re afraid to try the one-on-one thing right away. This allows him to see you in a social setting with people you care for.
If you think you’re ready for the one-on-one, then simply ask him to go spend time with you at a local restaurant or bistro. Take him somewhere you’ve never been before, so it’s new to you both. You may have a wonderful time with him.
Sometimes, risking rejection is the only way you can know for sure if there is a connection or not. If you sit back and wait for him to make the first move, you may be stuck for quite a while.
Don’t be one of the women who kick themselves for not taking a risk by asking their man out. Remember, he’s a sought-after guy because he’s a wonderful and caring guy who will do just about anything for his partner.
He will go out of his way for his friends as well. So either way, you really cannot lose. Take that dive off the diving board and see where you land. Hopefully, you’ll land near your crab in the water. Asking a Cancer man out is easy as pie, so don’t hold back if you have a chance with him.
6. Make It Obvious That You Like Him
Maybe this seems obvious, but for the Cancer man, it is a must. He’s represented by the crab symbol, and this means that he has a thick shell so he doesn’t get hurt.
A Cancer is the type of man who will question himself often. He’s not the most self-assured sign of the Zodiac. He is afraid of hurting the feelings of others by misreading them.
This is due to the fact that he is ruled by the Moon. The Moon is the planet that rules emotions as well as emotional defenses and creates a safe environment.
What this all boils down to is that he is not going to be one to go out on a limb lest he misread your signals. This would deeply embarrass and hurt him.
With Cancer, it is important to make it clear that you’re interested. This way he feels safe to test the waters by asking you out.
This is really a good quality to have since Cancer isn’t presumptuous. He doesn’t assume that you want him to ask. But If you’re a more subtle girl yourself I can see how this would create a vicious cycle of silence!
7. Be Open And Flirtatious
As I have mentioned before, Cancers are not naturally presumptuous. They do not assume that someone is into them unless they have real solid reasons to believe that.
This is why I recommend some fairly obvious flirting when it comes to the Cancer man. He needs to be pointed in the right direction when it comes to this.
Go ahead and hint that you think he is attractive, that you like how his voice sounds, or that he has mesmerizing eyes. These are types of flirting that go beyond things that a friend would say to a friend.
This is the type of conversation that needs to occur to open the Cancer up to the realization that you’re interested in being more than just friends.
I believe that there are limits to this, however. A Cancer who feels like you have already decided that you’re going to be with them will feel terrified.
He won’t be receptive to huge displays, so don’t flirt too obviously in front of coworkers or mutual friends. Cancers are private and this will suck the allure and intrigue right out of the experience.
What To Talk To A Cancer Man On The First Date (Questions To Ask)
Ask Him About His Mom
Family is everything to a Cancer man. And most often, this specifically applies to his beloved mom. He may have a love/hate relationship with her, but whatever it is, it’s intense. He will usually do anything for her, and she is the queen of his world!
You’ll have to be okay with sharing the throne. In fact, you can embrace it—which he will adore you for. The next time you’re on a date and want to know what makes him tick, and what’s defined him, ask him about his mother.
He loves to talk about her and his father as well as his siblings—who he also loves and hates. The Cancer man never has a wishy-washy relationship with his family.
This is a topic that never runs dry, and no matter how many dates you go on, he will always be keen to share his family stories!
Best of all, get him to show you family pictures. This will have him practically eating out of your hand!
Ask Him About His Emotions
Cancer is a sign that’s ruled by the Moon. The Moon rules emotions, and hence, these are the most sensitive men in the Zodiac.
If you’re out on a date, notice his emotional cues. Does he have his arms folded? Does he seem “crabby” or grumpy? Or is he open and in a wacky, crazy mood?
Show your empathy by letting him know, subtly, that you have picked up on how he’s feeling.
If you’re unsure, just ask him how he’s feeling today and if he’s had a good week. He’s just waiting for someone to show him the same care that he shows everyone else!
When he sees that you’re intuitive, he’ll also see you care about him enough to read him—and that will get him talking!
Connect Over His Favourite Memories
Oh, how a Cancer man loves to remember! He has the most colorful way of re-telling stories from the past, and his imagination is second to none!
Take a walk down memory lane with your Cancer guy. Question him about his favorite childhood memory, and share yours.
Ask him if he recalls specific products, music, toys, activities, or other quirky things from the past and have a laugh about how things have changed.
The past has to be a Cancer man’s ultimate favorite topic besides his family. He’ll be thrilled to bond with you over nostalgia, and you may be surprised to find shared memories. This is a winner!
Let Him Gush Over His Kids (If He Has Any)
Let’s face it—most of us are divorced with kids these days, and that doesn’t make it any easier to get back into the dating game, does it?
Cancer men are family men and amazing fathers. They’re nurturing and usually very protective of their children. So, when you show an interest in his kids, he will love it.
If he doesn’t have kids, then don’t be shy to ask him if he wants them one day. This is one guy who doesn’t get cold feet when talking babies.
He may have plenty of furry babies, which he will probably adore to death, so you can also chat about your animals and their special quirks.
Ask Him About His Travels
As much as Cancer is the home-loving sign, they also often love to travel extensively or have even settled down in another country at some point.
Cancers carry home with them, and they have to “feel” the place where they want to put down roots.
Ask him about the top places he has traveled to. Share your own places that you love. Once he gets going, you’ll see him practically light up with joy.
This will also trigger his other favorite topic—memories! It’s a double-win! Don’t forget to ask him about where he still wants to go. That should create some excitement for the future!
Let Him Talk About His Hometown
Even though he’s probably traveled plenty, a Cancer man will always have a very fond attachment to his hometown. He will love to tell you about the place he grew up, and his imagination will help you feel as if you were right there with him!
He’ll also love hearing about where you grew up, and this can be a real point of bonding for the two of you. You may discover that your favorite things about the places you’ve lived match up—and nothing accelerates a bond like the idea that you could easily build a life together.
How To Ask A Cancer Man Out Over Text
Asking someone out, especially over text, can be nerve-wracking. However, with a Cancer man, there are specific steps you can take to increase your chances of success.
Cancer men are known for being emotionally sensitive, so it’s important to establish a level of comfort and trust before making your move.
This can be done by engaging in meaningful conversations and showing genuine interest in his thoughts and feelings. Use romantic and heartfelt language because Cancer men appreciate romance and emotional depth, so when asking him out, choose your words carefully.
Cancer men appreciate someone who takes initiative and puts thought into planning. When asking a Cancer man out over text, suggest a specific activity or date idea that aligns with his interests and preferences. For example, if he’s a fan of nature, you could propose a hike in a nearby park or suggest visiting a botanical garden.
Express your understanding and respect for his personal space. Remember, Cancer men value their privacy and can be quite cautious when it comes to letting people into their lives. When asking a Cancer man out over text, it’s important to express your understanding and respect for his personal space.
So give him time to respond. Cancer men are known for their introspective nature and tendency to take their time with decisions. When asking a Cancer man out over text, be patient and give him time to respond.
Avoid being too pushy or aggressive, as I am sure you know Cancer men appreciate a gentle and understanding approach. While it’s important to show your interest and make your intentions clear, avoid being too pushy or aggressive when asking a Cancer man out over text.
If Your Cancer Man Pulls Away, DON’T Do This…
I’ve heard from so many of my clients that their Cancer man is AMAZING when they are in person with him… So charming, sweet, funny, and really connected!
But he can tend to pull away when you’re not with him.
It’s a super frustrating situation for any woman. And if you are like my other clients who have been through this, you’re probably feeling REALLY confused.
“Why is he so hot and cold through text?”
“Why does he back off when we aren’t together?”
And most importantly…
“What can I DO about this?”
First, I want to share the things you definitely should NOT do in this situation.
- Don’t get clingy or needy and ask him if something is wrong or beg to see him
- Don’t force closure if you’ve had some conflict. Wait until you can talk in person about important issues. Text can EASILY lead to miscommunication.
- Don’t assume that there IS a problem. He could just be really busy.
- Don’t let fear drive your actions. Assume the best and not the worst.
- Don’t chase him. Chase your dreams and goals instead.
So what SHOULD you do instead?
- Take some time out to reflect on the situation and consider logical reasons for his actions.
- Let him reach out to you when he’s ready. Cancer men like to lead. You need to let him do that!
- Be supportive. If you haven’t heard from him in a week (or even a day if you text every single day no matter what), ask if he’s okay. And offer to be supportive if he’s going through a challenging time.
- Communicate what your needs are, but avoid any blame or shame.
- When your Cancer man comes back, welcome him lovingly with open arms. If you are angry, he’ll want to run.
Text can be challenging, and I don’t want you to feel alone in this.
I don’t want you to lie in bed unable to sleep because you are worried about why your Cancer man is pulling away.
And there is no need for you to do that. Especially when I can guide you on how to deeply connect with a Cancer man’s heart through text messages…
Because when you know SPECIFICALLY what to text him based on his astrology, he WON’T be pulling away anymore. And you’ll never again have to worry about what to say to your lovely Cancer man through text anymore.