So many people have been married before—but it doesn’t have to be disheartening. If you have the knowledge of Astrology behind you, dating a divorced man can be a wonderful experience. Here’s what you need to know about dating a divorced Cancer man!
Falling in love with a divorced man feels like a risk. But it can also bring so much joy and the benefit of experience.
What I’ve learned in my time as a relationship astrologer is that many people find the greatest success the second time they try to make a forever commitment. They know what they want—and what they don’t want. They’ve experienced so many things to bring forward into new relationships.
Cancer men can be particularly regretful about the past. They often carry complicated emotions about their exes, even when their ex was toxic. He is such an emotional being that his heart is easily cracked open!
It’s important to proceed gently, with understanding and patience. This is especially true if the Cancer man has children. The mother of his children will always, in some ways, be sacred to him.
Yes, an ex-wife can seem like a hard act to follow, and it may feel intimidating at times. However, a Cancer man is one of the most loving, empathetic, and caring partners. It makes it all worth it, and all it takes is a bit of time and tenderness.
Here’s what you should keep in mind when dating a divorced Cancer man:
7 Things To Know When Dating a Divorced Cancer Man
1. He May Always Love His Ex
This is perhaps the hardest thing to accept about dating a divorced Cancer man. He may always love his ex. It could seem as if he can never let go. He may even remember her with rose-tinted glasses.
Yet at the same time, he will have a lot of hidden aggression towards her, too. There will have been issues, obviously, that led to their breakup, and as you get to know him, you’ll soon see that things weren’t nearly as perfect as he sometimes makes them out to be.
You’ll have to accept that he’s the type to hold on and try not to lose your sense of security because of it. At the end of the day, it dissolved for a reason, and he’s with you now. Gently remind him if it’s getting to you, and he’ll fall over himself to make it up to you.
2. He Has a Lot of Unresolved Issues
Even if the marriage ended years ago, this man is likely to have quite a few unresolved issues around his past relationship.
Some Cancer men deal with this proactively, by going to therapy and processing their complex feelings. Some simply hold onto the problems and fret over them. You can help by being available to talk to—but only if you can handle it. You need to be quite secure and strong in yourself to hold his problems.
However, if he finds an empathic ear in you, he’ll confide all his secrets and grief and slowly begin to heal from the past.
3. He’s a Believer in True Love
Despite hanging on to what has past, Cancer men really do believe in true love. He’s an incurable romantic, and he wants to believe that love can last. This is perhaps a part of the reason for all his holding on.
You are that opportunity for new love. And he will make you feel special and loved, like no other man. Cancer men are built for care and cuddles, and he’s the type that lives to lie next to you and dream about your future together.
Don’t give up on him. Just give him some time.
4. His Kids Come First
May Cancer men have children, and when they do, his kids are his entire world. He’s a caring, nurturing, and protective parent. His children will always come first in his life, even before you.
If you’re a mother yourself, you’ll know the feeling and may be quite attracted to a man who has such a strong paternal energy. He’ll love it if your children can play or hang out together, but he will go on the defensive if you criticize them.
Similarly, if you don’t understand that his children are his priority, he’s likely to doubt the relationship as a whole.
In the same way, he values the mother of his children, too. Even if there’s bad blood between them, he will always show respect to her, especially in front of the kids.
Try your best to understand his perspective if you don’t have kids, as this could cause some issues between you. He will also love it if you try to help him parent once you’re close enough that it’s appropriate—as long as you don’t step on his toes!
Try to build a strong relationship with his children. He’ll appreciate that more than you can know.
5. It Can Take Time for Him to Open Up
Cancer is the sign of the crab—protective shell, sharp pincers and all! But, if you strip their shell, you’ll find a soft belly inside, which is extremely vulnerable.
Cancer men are very protective of their feelings. This makes them often seem cold or detached. And they are very moody! If it’s taking time for him to open up, know that it’s not you—it’s just part of his character, especially when he’s been through a divorce.
He may have a few problems with trust and vulnerability, and he needs an understanding, patient, and empathetic partner at his side. He will soon open up—you’ll see!
6. He’s Scared of Being Hurt
This guy is terrified of being hurt again.
He is so very sensitive that he struggles to handle the pain of separation and the messy emotions that come along with a divorce. He’s also genuinely scared that you will hurt him, break his heart, or abandon him—because maybe it’s happened to him before.
Once again, the best fix for this is time, patience, effort, and empathy! Are you seeing a pattern here?
Once you’ve decided to get serious, don’t be shy about showing your commitment. He needs this validation to feel safe and know that you’re not going anywhere.
7. He Just Wants to Feel Safe
Not being hurt, as we just discussed, is a huge part of this, but a divorced Cancer man just wants to feel safe in all areas of life. He wants a happy family, a stable home, and hugs to come back to. He wants to feel secure in the world and secure in his relationship.
He will go out of his way to make you feel safe—and this is a kind of love language. Notice when he’s doing this—it’s an attempt to bring that safety back to himself.
It’s important with a divorced Cancer man to never make him feel like anything in your life together could crumble at any moment, and that goes for your love, your sex life, your finances, your relationships with your children—all of it.
Do your best to be his rock. He’ll be yours, too.
Are you dating a divorced Cancer man? What is the experience like for you, and what have you noticed?
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Your friend and relationship astrologer,