Hello, ladies! You have no idea how many times women ask me, “Will a Cancer man leave his wife for another woman?” These guys really seem to have everything a woman would want in a relationship.
And it is true; these guys are so sensitive, emotional, and understanding. It can be very comforting to be with a Cancer man. It can be really easy to fall for a Cancer man, especially if he fulfills all of your emotional needs, which these guys tend to do as they are naturally nurturing and attentive partners.
However, there might be some trouble if he is a Cancer man who is still married. You might be wondering how to get a Cancer man to leave his wife. Well, it is definitely a complicated situation to be in…
Let’s delve deeper and see if the signs indicate a Cancer man will leave his wife for you:
What Happens If A Married Cancer Man Falls In Love With Another Woman?
When a Cancer man falls in love with another woman, it can lead to a very complex situation for him. He might really struggle with the complexity of his emotions and the commitment he has made to his wife. He might feel torn between his feelings for the other woman and his sense of loyalty to his marriage.
This can lead to a lot of personal turmoil for him because he is the sign that is known to be deeply attached to his home and family. This can be so confusing for him and can create a significant amount of guilt and internal conflict.
He might feel like he needs to stick around with his family because of the promises he made and the fear of hurting his wife and children. But he may also feel a strong desire to explore the connection and chemistry he feels with the other woman.
He is definitely going to be all over the place emotionally, trying to navigate between his loyalty and his desires. This will most certainly not be a straightforward and direct decision for him to make.
Will A Cancer Man Leave His Wife For Another Woman? (4 Hopeful Signs)
Sometimes a marriage is just not that strong and destined to fall apart. Here are some signs a Cancer man may leave his wife for you:
He Discusses His Home Life Openly
When a Cancer man discusses his personal and family matters with you it is a strong indication that he has a level of trust and emotional connection with you. He feels comfortable sharing intimate details of his life and is seeking emotional support outside of his marriage.
He sees you as a confidant and someone who he can be open with. It is obvious that he feels comfortable sharing the personal aspects of his life with you, which may indicate that he is seeking an emotional connection outside of his marriage.
However, just beware that discussing his home life openly doesn’t guarantee that he will leave his wife for you. He might just see you as someone he can trust and be open with, but not necessarily someone he wants to pursue a romantic relationship with.
So it is important to be realistic about this point and not make assumptions or put too much pressure on the situation. Simply be a rock of support for him during his emotional journey.
He Sees You As Family
One thing you always need to consider about a Cancer man is his deep love for his family. They are absolutely top priority for him, and he values his role as a husband and father.
His sign rules the family in the Zodiac, which just shows the great emphasis he places on these connections. This is why out of all the signs, Cancer men are some of the least likely to leave their wives. He is just so loyal and committed.
However, there are always exceptions to this rule. And the only way he will consider leaving his wife and the flow of his family is if he sees you as a part of that family and if you somehow benefit from this structure in his life.
As an example, if he has kids he will have to clearly see that you will be a better mother to his kids than what his current wife is. This would be a determining factor for him to even consider leaving his wife.
If he says things like “You’d get along so well with my mom,” “I can’t wait to take you to family gatherings,” and “My kids will love you,” then there is a solid chance that he can see you sliding into his family scenario. This is a requirement and priority to even have a prayer of tearing a Cancer away from his wife!
It’s a big “ouch” kind of scenario, and it’s never the type of news I want to give! But I cannot tell a lie to my fellow women who are in need of my help. If you have heard your beau imply that you’re his family, then congratulations, because you have a chance at making him yours alone!
His Wife Suspects Him Of Cheating
Cancer men are totally nonconfrontational and peaceful in a lot of ways. They may have dark thoughts but their actions and words will almost always be hovering low on others’ radar. He is certainly not the type to be straight up about how he feels with others unless it’s positive… and even then, he might struggle!
As such, telling his wife that he wants to leave her is almost always a no-go. In his mind, there is little worse than causing discord among others – and discord as a result of his emotional honesty? Nothing sounds worse to a Cancer man. The one thing you can count on though is that she will find out.
Secrets can only be kept for so long, even with private Cancers. He will emotionally attend to you as much as possible, even though he can’t be physically with you as often as he likes.
As a result, his wife is going to notice how quickly he answers texts to someone else, how he seems gone and distracted sometimes (likely when he knows you’re hurting), and how he makes excuses when he is paying attention to you in some way.
In a way, she could be the way he falls into your arms (bet you didn’t expect that plot twist!). If she finds out and starts hinting that she knows, then it opens the door in his mind to be more honest with her.
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He Is Determined And Specific About Leaving His Wife
A Cancer is a water sign that has a tendency to be vague and, well, watery! Nothing is solid and everything is up for interpretation with a Cancer. He’ll do just about anything to keep people’s expectations of him low (in an attempt to not disappoint those he loves, a huge fear of his). As a result, he will be vague about when he will leave her if he doesn’t actually plan on doing it.
When you get messages like “I’m finally going to tell her tomorrow,” or “Next week after she gets over her job loss a little, I am telling her,” then that is a positive sign. Time ranges and dates are going to mean that he has surpassed the point of trying to keep your expectations low. When he knows that you can expect him to follow through then he has no reason to keep your hopes low.
This is the sign that could definitely mean that it’s over between him and his wife. It takes a lot for a Cancer to make concrete moves that will cause waves. When he is expressing a willingness to do that then go ahead and take a sigh of relief, because it might just be winding down between him and his wife!
Ending his marriage is likely not something he is taking very lightly, and it has probably taken a lot of courage for him to reach this point. So please take into consideration how hard this must be for him and be empathetic towards his decision-making process.
How To Get A Cancer Man To Leave His Wife (3 Ways To Make Him Choose You)
Do you want your Cancer man to leave his wife and choose you? Here are some things you can do to make him choose you:
Ask Him Directly To Do It
If you and your Cancer man have been in an affair, and it is very clear that he the two of you have fallen in love with each other, then it might be worth your while to be direct with him and ask him if he plans on leaving his wife.
This can give you the clarity you need to know if he is truly committed to leaving his wife and choosing you. If you don’t do this you might be wasting your time with a man who is not fully committed to leaving his wife.
When asking a Cancer man to leave his wife, it is important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings and desires for a future together. Let him know how you feel and that you understand the complexity and difficulty of his decision. But you also need to know where you stand in his life and what his intentions are.
You could make a timeline letting him know that you need him to make a decision by a certain date or else you will have to reconsider your own future. This is only fair to both you and him, as it allows for transparency and clarity in the situation.
He needs to know that you are serious about this, so it might be worth your while to limit your communication with him and create some distance to allow him time and space to make his decision. Give him a taste of what his life would be like without you.
Show Him How Good His Life Would Be With You
I find if you are in a situation like this it is best not to resort to manipulation or trying to convince him to leave his wife solely based on your own desires. This can lead to a host of problems down the line and may damage the trust and foundation of your relationship if it were to go anywhere.
However, the one thing that you can do is show him how good his life could be with you. Show him your qualities, strengths, and what you can bring to his life that his current wife might not be able to.
Show him what it is like to have someone who is supportive and understanding, someone who truly listens and cares for him. Help him envision a future with you that is filled with happiness, love, and fulfillment.
And be genuine about it, don’t do things you wouldn’t usually do just because you want to “win” or manipulate him into leaving his wife. You need to be very clear about what it is you want and what you have to offer to him, and you need to be realistic about them as well.
Don’t overpromise or exaggerate things just to try and sway his decision. It is a very big life-changing thing he might be considering, and he needs to make the decision that is best for him and his current situation.
Limit Your Time And Affection
If it has been a while and your Cancer man still hasn’t made a decision about leaving his wife, it may be necessary to limit your time and affection towards him. The thing is, he might be having his cake and eating it too by keeping you as an option while still maintaining his marriage.
This can be emotionally draining and unfair to you. And this is why you need to start focusing on yourself and your own happiness in this situation. The only way you can really do this is to distance yourself from him for a bit.
Focus on your own life, but also make him feel what it would be like if you weren’t in his life anymore. Create some distance and allow him time and space to make his decision.
And most importantly please stop being intimate with him unless he is fully committed to leaving his wife. This will show him that you value yourself and your own needs, and that you are not willing to settle for being his second choice or hidden affair. He needs to make a decision whether he likes it or not!
Does The Cancer Man Stay In An Unhappy Relationship?
A Cancer man is one of those guys who values his family and relationships deeply. Nothing is more important to him than those bonds he has made over the years.
He is loyal and committed, and will often stay in an unhappy relationship for the sake of keeping the family unit intact or out of a sense of duty to his wife and commitment to the marriage.
It is very rare that this man will actually step out of his marriage or leave his wife because of the promises he has made. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but if you are involved with a married Cancer man it would be better if you didn’t get your hopes up as this could only leave you disappointed and heart broken.
Is Your Cancer Man Avoiding Commitment?
Does your Cancer man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection?
Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?
Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment…
Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…
But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.
And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…
Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.
But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…
What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.
It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer.
And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.
So no more crying yourself to sleep when your Aquarius man pulls back…
No more feeling incredibly confused.
And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.
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Sending you love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
Hi Anna I’m at my wits end with trying and trying with my cancer man. I’m here today to ask u for a kind generous favor. I’m 37 a mother of 6 children and frankly I have no money. With the day to day life struggles I’m unable to afford any of your magnificent books. I religiously follow you everyday and I receive yr messages via email. My question is, may I please have an opportunity to please read the questions or texts to send to my man in hopes to grab his attention and lust after me to reconnect our ‘used to be’ strong relationship. I miss him so much and I bet he misses the me he once knew too. Things have been very rocky between us for couple months and always results in conflict. Some guidelines to a better future for us please and thankyou.
Dear Elizabeth,
If you’ve done something that has hurt your Cancer man, it’s crucial to apologize to him and explain why you did what you did. Your sincerity is key, as he’ll be able to sense if you’re not being honest. This honesty will help him trust the sincerity of your regret.
While he’s trying to figure things out, you can offer a friendship with him. This helps open the doorway so you can find a healthy way back to each other. There is NO guarantee that it will turn back to romance but it may help.
Sometimes, being friends from scratch again will allow you two to get to know each other as though you’ve met for the first time. It helps with communication and may help romance blossom again if the love remains.
If you want him in your life, you may have to settle for just the friendship. Go into it with the mindset of “at least we can be friends.” Then, whatever happens will happen from there.
Sending Love!