Cancer men are some of the biggest sensitive souls in the Zodiac. They can be very moody at times and let their emotions get to them in a big way. It can be pretty heartbreaking seeing your Cancer man depressed and sad, but there are definitely things you can do to cheer your Cancer man up.
How to comfort a Cancer man may seem daunting, but if you understand him and how he works, it will definitely be a lot easier for you to figure out than you may think! A Cancer man depressed is no fun to be around, so knowing what to do will only be for your and his benefit!
Are you currently dealing with a depressed Cancer man? Well, then you have definitely come to the right place. Keep on reading to find out how to cheer up a Cancer man and get him out of his slump!
How To Cheer Up A Cancer Man
One of the best qualities of the Cancer man is that he is so intuitive and sensitive as a person. He will understand you as no other man can. Unfortunately, his sensitivity is also his weakness because this often leads him to be depressed and sad.
When a Cancer man gets too stuck in his emotions and overthinks all of his problems it can definitely lead him to feeling despair and depression. His negative thoughts can often get the best of him and that is why he tends to be so moody.
One of the best ways to cheer up a Cancer man may sound a little counterintuitive actually. But if you give your Cancer man some space to breathe and be on their own then it is very possible that he will sort through his feelings and come out the other side on his own.
He might request alone time from you, and this is definitely when you should listen. Overcrowding your Cancer man when he feels sad and depressed is the wrong way to cheer him up. This will only lead him to believe that you don’t understand.
Once he has had his alone time he is probably going to desire a lot of affection from you. Only when he gives you the signal should you shower him with hugs, cuddles, and kisses. Let him come to you. It is as simple as that.
One pro tip: when you do give him space, make sure to let him know that you are there for him and willing to give him all the time he needs. You are not abandoning him, but allowing him the time to figure out what he wants.
What You Should Say To Comfort Your Depressed Cancer Man
When your Cancer man is sad and depressed, sometimes all he really needs is some reassurance and support. If you think that he might need some words of affirmation, then be certain to give it to him.
Here are some things you can say to a Cancer man to help him feel better:
“I Have Your Back.”
When a Cancer man is going through a sad phase, it may be a good idea to tell him that you have his back and that he can rely on you. He might be feeling sad and alone about something, but knowing that you are there for him can definitely help him feel better.
It is important that he knows that he can turn to you, but it is also important that you remember to not overcrowd him when he is feeling like this. He might snap at you if he feels overwhelmed. Allow him to cool off on his own.
“Is There Anything You Need?”
It is quite common for the Cancer man to feel like he has to be there for everyone else because he is by nature such a nurturer. He likes to take care of people and show his support, however, when he feels down it can be difficult for him to reach out and ask for help.
This is why by you offering support to your depressed Cancer man first, it can take a load off his shoulders and help him understand that you are really there for him and want to support him in whatever he is going through. This will make him feel loved and appreciated.
Read next: When A Cancer Man Misses You (Signs To Look Out For)
“I Am Here For You If You Need To Talk.”
Sometimes Cancer men get really sad and depressed because they feel alone and like they don’t have anyone to talk to. This is when they retreat back into their shell and isolate themselves from the world.
Simply letting him know that you are there for him and want to support him by talking about his problems should definitely help him to feel better. He might not come around immediately, but when he is ready he is likely to open up and tell you what is going on with him.
More Sweet Things To Say To Make A Cancer Man Happy When He’s Sad
The fact that Cancer men are so sensitive and emotional can often lead them to feel quite insecure in their lives. They actually need a lot of reassurance to feel better about themselves.
Here’s how to make a Cancer man happy when he’s sad:
- “Have a lovely day, handsome.”
- “I am so happy I met you, you light up my life.”
- “I love the way I feel when I am with you.”
- “Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you.”
- “You’re so easy to talk to.”
- “You give the best advice.”
- “I love it when you cook for me.”
- “I have been missing you all day.”
Is My Cancer Man Unhappy In A Relationship? 3 Signs To Look Out For
1. He Doesn’t Open Up About His Feelings
Sometimes Cancer men aren’t good at opening up but if or when he finally does; you’ll need to listen. Don’t try to talk, suggest, or give advice. Just be a sounding board so that he can let all his emotions loose.
When he vents; it helps him process his feelings better and he’ll function far better than when he holds it in. Again; he may not open up at first so it could take time to get him to understand you’re a great listener.
By telling him that you are; you better be! Sit there and just let him tell you everything that is bothering him and everything he wishes didn’t happen or wants to happen, etc.
Only offer up advice or words of wisdom if he asks you to. Otherwise, just keep quiet unless asked a question. You can say “I’m sorry you’re feeling this way” or “ I understand” but try not to offer up your opinion.
The last thing a Cancer man will want is your opinion on how he feels or what he’s going through. He just wants an empathetic ear that will allow him to get his feelings out. Purging is healthy and will help him to be a happier person.
This also gives you great insight as to who he is, how he thinks, how he feels, and how he deals with things that happen in his life. It’s amazing to know who he truly is at the core and this is the main way of finding out.
Here’s more on how to get a Cancer man to open up and become emotionally available <<
2. He Withdraws And Doesn’t Want To Spend Time With You
Remember that Cancer man is very emotionally driven. He’s sensitive and as such; will appreciate feel good movies. If you have any idea what type he gets into; you can have it cued up and ready to go with pizza and wine when he gets home.
When he no longer wants to spend time with you it can be a pretty bad sign that he is unhappy in his relationship. Cancer men often find their happiness in their partner. But you can try to cheer him up by doing something special for him.
If you do not live with him; you can invite him over to your place. In the event that he’s too down to want to come over; you can put together a care package for him that includes a positive type of movie he can watch.
Try to get him to let you watch it with him. However; if he wants to be alone then just leave it by his door, text him and let him know you left him a care package at his door. He’ll find it terribly sweet of you.
He will understand he can rely on you to pick him up when he’s not feeling like himself. Treats, cards, gifts, movies, music, or just some other type of sweet sentiment will make his heart happy.
Cancer man will very much love that his partner cares for him enough to go out of her way to make him smile and feel good about things again. This is a VERY good practice to take on if you are getting deep with your Cancer guy.
If you’re just dating one and you’re not yet serious; you can still work toward using these types of methods as it will help you secure a much deeper bond with him. He’ll know you’re secure and warm for him to open up to.
3. He Is Not Acting Sentimental
Cancer men are very sentimental, especially in their romantic relationships. He is the type of guy to keep little tokens or momentos from all the times he has spent with you. He is very fond of holding his memories close to him.
So when he stops doing this it can often be a bad sign that he is feeling unhappy in the relationship and he wants to withdraw. You can try to change things up by doing something special for him.
Back in the old days you could make a mixed tape of some really uplifting music and take it to him. Nowadays though; it’s more of an MP3 or Spotify playlist. Whatever you can do to make a collage of music he’ll enjoy; will surely make him feel cared for.
It’s like sending a card only giving him several options to choose from. You can pick songs that remind you of him or you can pick songs that you know he really likes. He’ll love the effort you put into it.
Load it up on an MP3 player or even on a USB drive. He’ll be over the moon with the time and love you put into making something for him. It’s incredibly romantic and will make his heart feel warmer.
There is no doubt this will cheer him up if he’s feeling blue. If you live together, you could just make a playlist on whatever music source you use so that you can play it for him when he gets home from work.
Of course, playing the music and serving him some tasty treats together will be a HUGE hit with the Cancer man. It will soothe him and make him feel he’s at last; at home with loving care.
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No More Sleepless Nights About Your Cancer Man
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Cancer man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Cancer guys. I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her.
She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him. Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy.
It took a LOT of work. She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language <<
And it worked!!
So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Cancer man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…
Go here now to see how to speak your Cancer man’s love language.
xoxo,
Anna
I am seeing a Cancer man going through a very rough spot in his life. Lost his license, for stupid mistakes, hence his job, has been in many Hugh’s and lows through his Ife as a former professional poker player which I am beginning to wonder is an addiction? Last weekend he lost a bunch of money and was in a horrible depression all weekend, and in “pain” All week he was fine, treating his pain, felt better, back to himself, until tonight when he lost more money. Now back to sever depression. Last week was threatening suicide, this week, not so much, but much darker believe it or not this week…I know this is severely unhealthy… And he needs help…. I am not naive enough to think I can fix him, I know that is impossible. It’s just when we met… His faith in God was so strong and that was what I used to talk him through stuff… Now he’s just abandoned all that… Tonight anyway…. I’m really just saying… I can’t help you, but trying to keep contact as he’s all in his own head and that is not a good place…. More as a human than anything I don’t know how to be there for him… This was not an exclusive relationship, but there was and extreme spiritual and physical connection, so hard to let go….
Hi Heather!
I’m sorry to hear your Cancer guy is going through a hard time in his life. Depression is definitely something Cancer men contend with in their lives. It’s true that there isn’t much you can do because he has to be willing to help himself. The only way you can be there for him is tell him that you’re praying for him and if he needs anything to let you know. Knowing you are available should provide some comfort. Use that spiritual connection to help him. You can only do so much and I think you’re doing what you can. Hopefully he’ll get out of his rut.
I hurt my cancer boyfriend immediately I went back to school I am scorpio I told him I needed space from him ? due to my insecurities I love him alot and he’s disappointed at me or rather very angry at me I am sad please how can I cheer in up we are far apart the distance is much how can I cheer him up from where I am what can I do what should I tell him I have so many questions ? I need help indont want to ruin our relationship
Hi Queen Bee!
Yikes! Telling a Cancer man you want space is rejection in his mind. It’s hurtful and it’s no wonder why he got upset. What you’ll need to do is be empathetic to him and what is going on. Tell him you are sorry for hurting his feelings and you’d like to make it up to him. Ask him what you can do. He should be able to tell you. Also you might want to explain to him about your insecurities and why you have them. He needs to know. Wishing you the best!
being a cancer is really difficult its truly hard to understand what we want i myself have personal issues with understanding what i want i always go back and forth on things it causes alot of grief on me. to help a cancer man feel better you have to let him know you fully understand him and agree with him even if it feel wrong in your heart it will let him know your there and that you care and keep reasuring him on things he brings up
Hi eddie lamay!
I am so sorry that you have difficulties as a Cancer man. There are definitely things you can do to make your life easier though. Mediation helps you get everything out and breathe in positive energy that helps feed your precious soul. Thank you for your words of wisdom on how to help a Cancer man feel better. I do hope you find the right path for yourself sweetheart.