Hello Sweethearts and a warm welcome to the October reading for your Cancer Man.
I’m really excited about this month, because there’s a lot of potential for deeper understanding, developing closer family bonds, working on commitment, and improved harmony within the family arena. This is also a great time for appreciating the special bonds that tie you and your partner together, and this is a particularly rewarding month for those of you who’ve been in a relationship a long time because you have a lot of good memories and experiences to draw wisdom from.
This is an important time to dig deep and use past experiences and wisdom gained from previous hurdles achieved to help guide you through the month.
The planets are very busy changing signs this month, plus we have Pluto going direct in Capricorn for the final time in any of our lifetimes and we have obviously the New Moon in Libra, so let’s get started!
Mercury enters Libra – 6th October
This is a really good time to achieve increased understanding in relationships, it’s a great time to express your feelings, your emotions, and anything that you’ve been concealing from Cancer man. This is not necessarily the best time for dealing with issues that need a lot of calm and detachment, this is a better time for understanding better the emotional side of things. It’s important to engage your receptive qualities and to use your intuition to navigate your relationship, what’s important is not just what’s said, it’s the subtext and also the feeling you’re getting, so it’s important to be taking note of his body language, his actions and his reactions.
It’s essential not to be totally literal with Cancer Man, sometimes the best way to communicate with him is through thoughtfulness and through your own approach, so lead the way and set the tone through your own actions. By being more diplomatic and be more thoughtful, you thereby set a tone, rather than say being aggressive and confrontational, which would set totally the wrong tone.
You get more out of him when you both cultivate a more tranquil environment. It’s also good not to be inviting people who are inevitably going to cause trouble or conflict into your home, so you want strong boundaries with the more problematic family members.
Venus enters Libra – 10th October
This certainly represents a good time to reconnect with family members who you haven’t seen for a long time, and it’s also good for entertaining within your home, but specifically your nearest and dearest rather than just random people.
Something you may want to do with your Cancer Man this month is a little bit of redecorating and revamping your home, but particularly with more convenience, comfort and luxury in mind. This is not a time to be taking on any arduous task, it’s more a case of prettying up, improving the soft furnishings and just creating a more relaxed vibe.
It’s important right now for everyone to feel comfortable, so whatever you guys can do to make the whole family at ease should be a priority. What’s also vital in terms of Cancer Man is to remember that familiarity breeds contempt, if you are dating, the more he gets to know you, your family, your pets the better as things like that are really important.
So in new relationships, getting really comfortable with each other and feeling that you know each other on a kinda intimate and domestic level is key.
Pluto direct Capricorn – 11th October
Pluto going directing Capricorn is good news for long-term relationships and marriage with Cancer Man, this is a time when you can consolidate all the progress you’ve made, work harder at putting the past behind you and start envisioning a ambitious new future together.
This is a really good time to make more of an effort towards thinking about your long-term future and also renewing loyalty and commitment to the relationship.
Mars enters Scorpio – 13th October
In terms of new relationships, this period is particularly good for chemistry and sexual relationships, so if you are meeting Cancer Guy this month, or if you have recently been dating, it’s highly likely that the sexual and affectionate side of the relationship is hotting up, and if you want to know if the relationship will go well, a clue is if there’s good chemistry and he’s really into you.
In terms of being married to Cancer Man, this is a good time to stimulate him visually and through becoming a little bit more physically attentive to him. It’s important to boost his eager, to give him compliments about his looks and to just show that you are really noticing when he is looking good.
Another way to complement and encourage him, whether you are dating or married, is to give him a lot of positive feedback on his sports ability or the success he is having in the gym, or to just encourage him to be more physically active. This is really a good time for sports pursuits, so whether he’s into sports or hasn’t really been physically active for a while, it’s a great time to encourage him to get a little bit revved up physically.
Mercury enters Scorpio – 23rd October
Scorpio represents Cancer Man’s solar fifth house of romance, so this is really an ideal time of year for romantic activities, improving your relationship and increasing the amount of affection. Now while Mercury entering Scorpio is a lot about having fun and the communication side of the relationship, Venus is more about the sensual side of a relationship, so if you are just getting to know Gemini Man or are recently dating, this is a great time to find out what his likes are sexually and what stimulates him.
Now this can be anything from what he likes you to wear, fragrances, music etc. to the more private things that he likes to get up to, so it can be a wonderful time to explore and understand what really makes him tick and turns him on.
If you’re married, this is a perfect month for having a few date nights and taking time off to do activities that are fun before things get really hectic in November and December.
New Moon in Libra
The New Moon in Libra represents that he needs more comfort, he’s less likely to be engaged with his career and his public life, in fact, he’s looking to retreat. However, it also means he’s in quite a private frame of mind, so it’s important not to chat about your relationship on social media and things like that, or if you want to, just put it by him first.
Theme of the Month – This is a great time for relaxed family gatherings and activities that aren’t too draining or intense. It’s even a good time for him to take a week off, potter around the home and do a bit of early autumn or early spring gardening, and to just settle his nerves.
It’s a great time for a little mini audit and an emotional reboot, it’s a month for him to ground and centre himself, gather his thoughts and settle himself before the rush we all experience before Christmas.
Do: The new moon phase extends from the 14th of October to the 28th of October this waxing phase is the perfect fortnight for new initiatives, setting plans, establishing goals, starting anything prospective and being proactive.
The waxing phase is great for financial analysis, joint ventures and tax planning. It’s also good for applying for a loan. Sexual matters and intimate understanding is enhanced. This is great for new sexual relationships with Cancer Man and improving your sex life.
Avoid: Caution is needed in extreme sports, physical activity and also in terms of investing.
Week 1 – Common Touch
This week he is rather loving and affectionate, but there can be some tricky elements to this week as well. On one hand, he’s more dreamy, he’s more romantic and he wants to spend time with the people he loves and who are closest to him, but he’s not particularly erotic, so he might just be a little bit too laid back or lazy for sex or intimacy.
It’s also a time when he hates any pressure or nagging so do avoid anything that’s likely to be confrontational or which is going to cause him to feel stressed out.
In new relationships this will really be a test of how much you have in common, people who have shared experiences in their past will tend to bond better with Cancer Man, if you’ve had very different upbringings, this is a time that could be more challenging and you may have to make more of an effort to learn about his background and why he is like he is.
Week 2 – Salt on your Skin
With Mars in Libra Square Pluto in Capricorn, he won’t always tell you what he’s thinking, that’s why you have to watch his behavior. Sometimes issues from the past are bugging him and it’s possible that you might inadvertently rub salt in the wound, so it’s really vital to use your common sense but also your intuition in dealing with him. It could be a time when you have to walk on eggshells.
This is also a period where he can be driven by compulsions, he’s sometimes irrational and often when he gets an idea in his head, it’s very hard to shift it. He’s prone to feeling a little bit paranoid or over-emotional.
This can be quite a difficult time, however, this is also an awesome time for any purging or detoxifying he needs to do in his life. If he’s able to identify the activities or people that are really getting him down, this is a good time for him to cut them out of his life, so do encourage him to be more mindful of the negative influences in his life, how they affect him and how you can deal with them together.
Week 3 – Clearing the path to love
This week is very busy for activities around the home and it’s one of the weeks when you will be more lightly to have close friends and family around. It’s vital to take care of the little details that need to be done around the home, this is a really good time for getting organised and buying new products or technology to make your lives easier.
So although it doesn’t sound particularly exciting, this can be a really good week to lay the path for more romance and fun later on, so if by getting on top of your chores and the household business can set you up for a lot more free time as the year closes out
Week 4 – Tell him about it, let him know how much you care
Now this week, in general, for all star signs, is quite stressful, there are lots of unpredictable events and it may well be that events in the wider political and economic environment impact you which means you have to stay on top of the news and deal with sudden changes. Sometimes there’s quite a frenetic energy related to this week, so it’s important to eat well and get enough sleep because it’s easy to become stressed.
On the other hand, this is a fantastic time for romance especially if you are newly dating Cancer Man as he can be quite spontaneous and unpredictable. He enjoys surprises, you never know what’s in next and therefore it can be quite an exhilarating week for dating Cancer Man. However, he’s also quite confusing, but if you like variety, that’s a good thing.
In terms of marriage, there may be issues that come up to deal with in connection with children, but it’s important to allow your children to be free, encourage them to be independent and embrace their individuality. It’s vital to let Cancer Man know that you love him just the way he is, and that it’s the little quirks about him that make him unique and make your relationships special and awesome.
So this is a wonderful time for you guys to entertain, to socialize together and to perhaps take a short city break just the two of you. Make time to be together as adults, and that means getting the kids, the pets and everything else out of the bedroom and having conversations that are stimulating and of an adult nature, but remember ambiance, as it’s important so be creative about the way you seduce him.
Wishing you love and luck with your Cancer Man,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,