Should you follow a No Contact Rule with a Cancer man? You may have heard how sensitive this sign is- will a Cancer man come back if you ignore him? Or will you just push him away?
You may be surprised to learn there are some situations in which distancing yourself from a Cancer man can save your relationship. This tactic can backfire, though, so you must be discerning about when to employ it.
If we haven’t met, I’m Anna Kovach, and I’m a relationship astrologer with decades of experience helping women just like you solidify their connection with their Cancer men. I’ve learned the secrets to getting a Cancer man to come out of his shell, and yes, sometimes that requires learning when to chase him and when to ignore him.
1. When he is grouchy
Cancer men are notoriously moody. You might get overwhelmed by his intense emotions, but if you want to steer him back on track when he is in a short-tempered mood, you can pull back and avoid contact. Don’t go out of your way to contact him and pause before replying.
How long does it take a Cancer man to miss you? He doesn’t need a lot of time to change his mood especially if you ignore him. Don’t do this for too long, however. A Cancer man’s moods can shift quickly.
As soon as you see him go from cranky to remorseful, loosen up and let your Cancer man back in. If you ignore him for too long, he will take it personally and assume you’re not interested in him.
2. When he’s being demanding
A Cancer man can be needy when he cares about you. He may alternate between being paternal and protective and then become child-like and seek your approval and nurturing. If his demanding nature starts to show, boundaries are needed. He might take this too far if you don’t set limits.
One way to reign in expectations is to stop contact for a day or two. Let him see that you aren’t there to cater to him. If he is too demanding of your time and attention, you can balance the dynamics in the relationship by reminding him that you have limits.
3. When he’s obsessed with work
Cancer men can be savvy in business and devoted to their careers because they seek security and find validation in success. Sometimes, a Cancer guy will start to get carried away focusing on his ambitions, neglecting his personal life. This is typical when he’s trying to cope with stress and hide from his feelings.
Will a Cancer guy regret ignoring you? If you give him a taste of his own medicine when he’s becoming a workaholic, you can motivate him to re-evaluate his priorities. You can remind him of what he’s missing by practicing a No Contact Rule.
Pulling away from a Cancer man when he’s work obsessed sends a warning that he might lose you if he’s not careful.
4. When he reminisces about his ex
Sometimes, Cancer men can be sentimental and dream about the past without considering how his actions impact you. When he reminsces about his ex and waxes nostalgic, don’t let jealousy undermine your relationship.
Instead, don’t be in a hurry to text him back. Stop initiating contact. Remind him through your actions that you are in his life now and deserve his full attention. Leaving a Cancer man alone when he mentions his ex can assert a boundary letting him know he’s crossed a line.
5. When he is taking you for granted
Cancer men are loving and romantic, but sometimes they can get into routines and forget to put in the extra effort. If your Cancer man is neglecting your needs, he might be taking you for granted. The best way to change course when a Cancer man is not showing you the love and attention you deserve, it’s best to go quiet for a short time.
Stop initiating contact and give your Cancer man space. Resist the urge to confront him about his behavior and let him have some down time. He’ll eventually recognize that he’s making a mistake and pursue you more directly.
Following a No Contact Rule after a breakup can also ignite your Cancer love’s passions and get him to recommit to you. He may have a change of heart if you don’t contact him first.
6. When he doesn’t want to settle down
Cancer men are typically eager to commit when in love, but there are some exceptions to this rule. If you find yourself with a Cancer man who is slow to get serious, if he avoids talking about living together or becoming exclusive, and if he delays decisions like marriage, it’s time to try a little No Contact Rule to remind him he doesn’t really want to lose you.
You can make a Cancer man get serious about you if you remind him what life is like without you. If you are an active presence in your Cancer man’s life, he might become content with a fun and romantic relationship but dodge serious commitment.
This is one of the few times you can follow a No Contact Rule without threatening your relationship. The goal is to remind him how much he really enjoys having you in his life by letting him miss you.
7. When he acts clingy
One of the most difficult aspects of a relationship with a Cancer man is when he becomes needy. Men born under this side have a fatal flaw- their clingy nature. If he becomes insecure and too dependent on you, using the No Contact Rule can reinforce healthy boundaries.
You can slow down and take a break from communication to give him a signal that he’s overwhelming you. This should only be done judiciously and when other attempts at setting boundaries have not worked. Cancer men can become even more insecure when you go silent, so using this tactic as a first resort can backfire.
Now that you understand how a No Contact Rule works with a Cancer man, how did your Cancer guy respond?
I would love to hear from you.
If you’re struggling with when to pull away or when to reach out, my step-by-step guide Magic Phrases will help you know exactly what to say and when.
These powerful phrases are designed to get a Cancer man’s attention, melt his walls, and make him crave your presence again.
With love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach.
